I respect that you’re the only person to actually dig deeper into my remark. I think it’s both and neither of those at the same time.
Love and appreciation cannot coexist with squalor, misery and poverty that is present in today’s common marital home. A wife (or husband) would be more receptive if we all didn’t had to work vast amounts of overtime to live in our tiny houses.
I broadly agree with that, but phrasing it as you originally did… leaves open the potential of many interpretations, and is thus… well in this context, inherently inflammatory.
Such as the interpretation of basically ‘all women want only money or expensive things/experiences’.
I would say that love can exist amidst squalor, but certainly the poverty makes it much, much more rare and difficult achieve or maintain.
I’m not going to tell you gold diggers do not exist, or that many women are not broadly financially illiterate, irresponsible, or that many women are not vain.
But many of them are none of those things, many men are.
Qualified statements are probably a better plan with uh, high conflict topics.
depression can very much make you become bored by things you used to like, its called anhedonia and it doesnt always go away even after some pretty intensive treatments, or even if the depression itself is managed.
I’ve separated them purposefully because I think there’s an important semantic distinction. The boredom you describe is driven by disinterest due to neurochemical dysfunction.
That’s distinct from boredom as a state of mind which assumes or asserts that curiosity, entertainment, etc, are presented and consumed. There is not necessarily a chemical imbalance imposing this state on the mind.
If you like, you could reword the sentiment as; only boring people are bored (and those with depression are not necessarily boring).
I’ve considered that phrasing previously but found it diminishes the concept.
Try having more money and those excuses vanish
Just buy another wife?
Wtf
So you’re saying that … a woman’s partner having more money … makes them… decisive?
Like, inherently?
… or because women only want to do things that cost a significant amount of money, and give noncommital answers when such money is not present?
I am genuienly trying to follow the logic here.
I respect that you’re the only person to actually dig deeper into my remark. I think it’s both and neither of those at the same time.
Love and appreciation cannot coexist with squalor, misery and poverty that is present in today’s common marital home. A wife (or husband) would be more receptive if we all didn’t had to work vast amounts of overtime to live in our tiny houses.
I broadly agree with that, but phrasing it as you originally did… leaves open the potential of many interpretations, and is thus… well in this context, inherently inflammatory.
Such as the interpretation of basically ‘all women want only money or expensive things/experiences’.
I would say that love can exist amidst squalor, but certainly the poverty makes it much, much more rare and difficult achieve or maintain.
I’m not going to tell you gold diggers do not exist, or that many women are not broadly financially illiterate, irresponsible, or that many women are not vain.
But many of them are none of those things, many men are.
Qualified statements are probably a better plan with uh, high conflict topics.
It has nothing to do with money. This is something people will struggle with sans agriculture and in a perfect gift economy utopia.
Only boring people are bored (and depression is not boredom).
depression can very much make you become bored by things you used to like, its called anhedonia and it doesnt always go away even after some pretty intensive treatments, or even if the depression itself is managed.
I’ve separated them purposefully because I think there’s an important semantic distinction. The boredom you describe is driven by disinterest due to neurochemical dysfunction.
That’s distinct from boredom as a state of mind which assumes or asserts that curiosity, entertainment, etc, are presented and consumed. There is not necessarily a chemical imbalance imposing this state on the mind.
If you like, you could reword the sentiment as; only boring people are bored (and those with depression are not necessarily boring).
I’ve considered that phrasing previously but found it diminishes the concept.
The lack of want is horrible to live with.