You seem to be deliberately missing the part where I said ‘in my local area’.

In my local area… no, so far in my experience using fetlife, you are wrong.

The woman I am talking about is absolutely exceptional in terms of physique, compared to her peers in the same area, I have yet to see anyone comparable… though of course, again as I previously said… I’ve only just started using the site.

Sure, if I look … across everyone on the entire site, everywhere, then yes, I will most likely see more 55 yo women who have great physiques.

But I don’t live in New York or LA or Paris or something.

I live in a ‘city’ with a population significantly under 500k, and its a poorer city, in a poorer state.

You are the one who decided that what I originally said and meant was ‘no 55 yo women exist who have exceptional physiques’. You interpreted it that way, ignoring pertinent context and then explicit statements from myself where I made every attempt to explain that no that is not what I meant…

… and you are trying to spin this as extracting a confession from me.

This is bad faith in the extreme.

I also never said that most older women are invisible to me. I talk to a fair number of older women in my apartment… somewhat regularly, when we pass in the halls or what not. I enjoy their conversation, occasionally I help them out with some kind of chore type task, they help me out with some kind of chore… I just am not generally sexually attracted to them.

I explictly said that it would be ridiculous to have the same physical expectations for a 30 yo and 55 yo woman, yet you persist in insulting me and painting me as a misogynist who thinks all old women are ugly.

Also, I’m not the one downvoting you. Somebody else is doing that. You could verify this if you wanted to, I believe there are tools by which possible to do that on lemmy, or you could ping a mod or admin if you really want, i think they could as well.

I hope you do not consider it ‘stalking’ to reply to a conversation chain that you started and are continuing.

People can be ‘not in 100% agreement with you’ and not be a stalker-misogynist.

Yeah, I’m guessing they’re also uh, in addition to the lottery, going to be attempting some backend strategy to attempt to weed out likely ‘this is a fake account for resellers’.

… I’m autistic and thus abnormally aware of patterns and details, basically all the time, everywhere, by default.

What I have described to you as my reality, as my lived experience, is accurate.

To me, a 55 yo woman in … yeah, basically as good of shape as a world famous celebrity actress? EDIT: (of similar age)

Exceptionally uncommon.

About the same level of exceptionally uncommon as a random 55 yo man being in the same shape / physique as say, Liam Neeson or maybe Daniel Craig or Idris Elba.

Can you really just not accept that another person’s lived experience could… significantly differ from your own?

Yeah, I’ve seen a fair number of people do that or similar on Steam accounts, but… yeah at least so far on fetlife, haven’t seen that.

Look I don’t know what to tell you… I have no reason to lie about this.

Yeah, in my life, most older people tend to let themselves go.

Yes, most older people I’ve known as friends or family or regular acquaintances or coworkers are somewhat to significantly more fat than they were in their 30s, and yes, by the time they hit 55, many of them also have at least one somewhat to very serious kind of disability.

Maybe I’m just from a poorer millieu than you, where people don’t tend to have the money or time to afford good food and healthcare and spare time to excercise?

For whatever reason, at least in my area, no, people don’t seem to do that. I haven’t seen a one that used that kind of anonymization.

Not in person, not in real life, not ‘in my local area and looking to mingle’, no.

I don’t regularly… go to gyms where 55 yo women are, and … I think all of my intimate partners have been within a max of +/- 3 years of my own age.

I’m not trying to nor did I say that all older women are decrepit and ugly.

I’m saying that generally speaking, women (as well as men), kinda tend to let themselves go a bit, as they get older… and honestly there is nothing wrong with that, that is completely normal. Getting old hurts, it makes staying in shape hard… it would be ridiculous to have basically the same general physique expectations for both a 30 yo and a 55 yo woman, or man.

What is very not normal is to actually encounter a 55 yo women in approximately similar physique condition as ~55 yo Selma Hayek or Cate Blanchette.

It is so not normal to me, that I literally didn’t believe it.

The internet and celebrities != real life.

… watch the video.

The majority of it literally is performance testing of various games.

I am totally open to other people having different stances, but at least for myself, worth it.

I already have an OLED Deck with a 1 TB drive… lost my old pc in lets summarily call it a series of unforunate events, been daily driving the Deck with a dock thingy and M+KB as my main PC for a few years now.

So, I can get the 512 GB + controller bundle, and just swap the drives, reflash em with appropriate OS.

$1128 for a ‘pc’ that can run RDR2 and Cyberpunk 77 at pretty darn good graphical settings, at 1440p, at or over 60 fps average? And fancy pantsy controller?

Good enough, my eyes are starting to go a bit anyways lol, 4K is very likely wasted on me, and I’d love to have a Steam Deck that’s basically easier to hold and lighter, as a control option.

That’d be a steal, imo, looking at it in PC pricing terms… which is the way I’m looking at it, because that’s the way I’ll mostly be using it.

Also I can dress it up as a companion cube.

Ratman loves companion cube, cannot stop testing, needs to keep testing.

Yep.

I was initially hopeful that this thing might be surprisingly affordable, due to… basicslly the theory/rumor is that the ‘semi custom’ apu was initially intended to be used in a planned but cancelled Windows tablet/Surface kind of thing…

But yeah, then, tariffs, rampocalypse, strait’s closed due to raids = shipping costs go up bigly.

I’m pretty sure the way Valve does their internal finances is that that 30% cut of all games?

Sure some of it goes toward Steam server costs, but I think most of it just goes into a giant war chest fund, from which they ‘experiment’, with things like this.

Makes sense to me that they at least want to break even… business wise, that works if it makes more people use Steam and/or increases their reputation as actually innovating in some way.

But being a loss leader would simply be too dangerous, too risky. They are small fries compared to the major console/pc hw manufacturers, and I am very sure the last thing they would ever want to do is owe some outside actor a lot of money.

Ahem, double post but holy shit:

https://lemmy.dbzer0.com/post/71039901

Steam Machine price reveal, early waitlist open for only this week, and oh also it will be able to use/run FSR4.

… where is my soyfacewojack when i need it…

???

Is… is this a problem for you, in some way?

That I have a body type preference, on a website explicitly designed for people to seek out specific consensual sexual experiences?

For a while, AMD had been kind of… non commital about this… I think they just genuienly did not know if it would be a software/hardware engineering problem they could actually solve,.so they would not want to promise something they didn’t know if they could deliver.

In that time period, a whole bunch of random opensource people were basically trying their damndest to reverse engineer a seemingly accidentally leaked version of an AMD driver that at least made some of this maybe technically possible.

By the time the OS reverse engineers managed to basically build an unofficial driver that did actuslly work, though maybe not with the greatest performance… well, I’d guess AMD basically copied some of their homework, and then did their own thing.

I mistyped, I meant to write 25 years younger.

But why would somebody lie from roughly 30 to present as 55?

Well really, the pattern that I thought I’d noticed was that people would just bullshit their age by a round number, 5, 10, 20, etc years, in any direction.

An obfuscation/privacy tactic more so than like, a catfishing tactic.

The other thing at play here is that … I was genuinely baffled, in disbelief.

I literally have never seen a 55 yo woman in as good of shape as she is, she’s in better shape than most women I’ve known who actually are in the age bracket I thought she was in.

Oh.

Well, the exact reverse of this was and has been my mental state for years now, untill a seemingly insecure Windows user here apparently felt the need to insinuate the opposite is actually case.

Evangelizing?

No, I don’t do that.

I answer some questions that some people have, where they’re initiating things.

Occasionally this elicits a REEEE type response from a Windows user… which I can usually counter with ‘I actually used to work for MSFT… that’s why I am now a linux user.’

… even if it was a bit…

It would still be a good bit.

‘Local unabashedly horny woman posts about sexcapades, again, more at 11.’

Perhaps inverting all elements of this…

So, I finally made a fetlife account. I’m roughly 35, M.

Looking through people in my area.

See a fairly wide range of people, but notice that… a fair number of accounts are seemingly obviously lying about their age. In either direction, sometimes.

Follow a few accounts.

Surprisingly, one follows me back within like an hour or two … long story short, this woman has a fantastic body, but claims she’s 55. Isn’t showing her face on her profile, totally makes sense as a privacy measure, also leads me to think its more likely she’s listing a fake age, as another privacy measure.

I say hello type words, including basically ‘theres no way you’re 55 right? you look to be 15 years younger.’

Fucking nope, nope I am wrong, she actually is 55, and is just in incredible shape.

So I guess now I am entirely unintentionally into MILFs. Still think she looks great!

As a dude who is 5’ 10", aka, basically just a teensy bit over the US average male height…

I am consistently, momentarily confused when anyone in/from the US describes me as ‘tall’.

Its almost always a woman that will do this, which makes sense, but I’m still always stun locked for a second or two.

Hah, I’m imagining a good solid kangaroo punch: THWAP!

I mean yeah, it would/could just be the inverse of what millenials/zoomers grew up with: ‘you have to go to college learn a skilled trade if you want to have a decent living!’

Hard to forecast precisely how strong the effect would be, but absolutely yeah, if a bunch of people flood into a specific category of labor… they will on aggregate depress their own wages.

… This is why the luddites smashed things.

Partially because the machines actually produced inferior output products, mostly because their proliferation caused mass unemployment/immiseration.

A society that wants to technologically progress must also socially progress, otherwise, you’re just building a tinder box.