I mean… most people are kind of boring. It’s not surprising that most profiles will thus be kind of boring.
The biggest factors I think are
You live someplace shitty.
Your photos are bad. This is different from you are bad.
Your profile has red flags.
You’re writing unimpressive messages.
The apps suck and are a capitalist nightmare, but there’s stuff you can do to improve the odds as a free user.
I just remembered some guy on lemmy that was like “i can’t get any dates on these things!” and when pressed, he revealed that he’d talk to women on there for a couple weeks, and then was surprised when nothing happened. No shit. You gotta ask people out.
I would say 1/100 people on dating apps are people I would actually want to talk to. I feel like the normal people just have people talking to them irl so they don’t go on dating apps (as would I if I weren’t stuck at home)
That could be a factor. My perspective is limited to one of a man who doesn’t date men. I had some nice (and one memorably, laughably bad*) dates with queer people on hinge, but it wasn’t my primary experience.
I mean… most people are kind of boring. It’s not surprising that most profiles will thus be kind of boring.
The biggest factors I think are
The apps suck and are a capitalist nightmare, but there’s stuff you can do to improve the odds as a free user.
I just remembered some guy on lemmy that was like “i can’t get any dates on these things!” and when pressed, he revealed that he’d talk to women on there for a couple weeks, and then was surprised when nothing happened. No shit. You gotta ask people out.
I would say 1/100 people on dating apps are people I would actually want to talk to. I feel like the normal people just have people talking to them irl so they don’t go on dating apps (as would I if I weren’t stuck at home)
In my experience with Hinge- it was because I was openly queer. Hinge was far too normie, I had much better luck with Bumble.
That could be a factor. My perspective is limited to one of a man who doesn’t date men. I had some nice (and one memorably, laughably bad*) dates with queer people on hinge, but it wasn’t my primary experience.