I’m someone who goes by Ze/Zir pronouns. I’ve done so for years. I originally went by they/them pronouns but I didn’t like them much and they just don’t feel right for me. When I discovered neopronouns they just felt right. Unfortunately I haven’t had much luck getting people to refer to me by my preferred pronouns.
Even here on Lemmy lots of people still refer to me by they/them or worse she/her. It feels really bad. Does anyone else on here struggle with this?
I wish pronouns weren’t related at all to gender, like in Finnish where it’s hän, or Turkish where it’s o. Imo gender should be no more than an adjective in language, just like “British” “black” or “lower class” is. Thus I’d rather use they/them for everyone, but I will begrudgingly use he/she for people if they request it, since it’s so ingrained in the language. But neopronouns aren’t as ingrained, so imo this makes things unnecessarily confusing and I’d rather just use they/them for these people
Sorry if that makes me a transphobe
Yeah, in English they don’t really have to be. Pronouns can be used by anybody for any reason, whether they are a specific gender or not.
Edit: With their consent, of course.