• hakase@lemmy.zip
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      59 minutes ago

      That the original OP clearly had a specific person in mind when making the meme.

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        56 minutes ago

        laurenceofSuburbia reposts memes from Reddit. They’ve said so in recent comments as well. This isn’t a personal post.

        Does telling a specific woman to use their big girl words turn the phrase into something kind or positive?

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          48 minutes ago

          It was personal for the person who originally posted it. Would it have been ok for Laurence to post the same meme if it said “big boy pants”?

          Also, I’ve seen the “venting” posts that get posted in womensstuff and elsewhere on Lemmy saying exactly the same sort of thing about men, both specific and in general.

          Are they kind or positive? They get hand-waved as “just venting” and “healthy outlets”. So, are venting posts ok or are venting posts not ok?

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            47 minutes ago

            You are sealioning and using whataboutism now.

            Does telling a specific woman to use their “big girl words” turn the phrase into something kind or positive?

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              38 minutes ago

              And you’re intentionally avoiding the question.

              I think I’ve had enough of you purposefully misconstruing and dodging me when I’ve done my best to be genuine.

              I don’t think our conversations in the future will be this lengthy - I’ve finally internalized that nothing I say will make you see the harm you’re inflicting.

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                35 minutes ago

                You can’t even show me the supposed harm I’m inflicting on men here.

                There’s supposedly hundreds of misandrist comments in my post history.

                You can’t answer me and that’s why you’re resorting to whataboutisms.