… I am a man and I have successfully done this more than once.
Not like, out of the blue, first date hookup kind of thing. More like… we’ve at least been dating for a few weeks, more like months usually, kind of thing.
Sometimes, it ends up with just comforting, no sexy time, just … more or less bonding time.
But, sometimes, it does end up with sexy time.
If your goal is relating to the other person, growing a relationship with them, not just sex with them… it doesn’t matter.
I believe you. There’s some kinds of trauma though that are just inherently more stigmatized by cis-het women. Sure people value our capacity for vulnerability and candor but some societal norms haven’t really seen any progress on that particular end of the spectrum.
Regarding trauma about male-on-male SA, various addictions, or accusations of sexual misconduct the general public still isn’t really that progressed in it’s ability to handle. They’re not really kinds of trauma that you can dress up in a cool jacket and say “well I’m a better person for having endured it”
… I am a man and I have successfully done this more than once.
Not like, out of the blue, first date hookup kind of thing. More like… we’ve at least been dating for a few weeks, more like months usually, kind of thing.
Sometimes, it ends up with just comforting, no sexy time, just … more or less bonding time.
But, sometimes, it does end up with sexy time.
If your goal is relating to the other person, growing a relationship with them, not just sex with them… it doesn’t matter.
Because your tomorrow will include that person.
I believe you. There’s some kinds of trauma though that are just inherently more stigmatized by cis-het women. Sure people value our capacity for vulnerability and candor but some societal norms haven’t really seen any progress on that particular end of the spectrum.
Regarding trauma about male-on-male SA, various addictions, or accusations of sexual misconduct the general public still isn’t really that progressed in it’s ability to handle. They’re not really kinds of trauma that you can dress up in a cool jacket and say “well I’m a better person for having endured it”