Does anyone else struggle with trans discord servers? I’ve mostly given up on them because of how cliquey they get. I also feel like there’s a lot of tone policing that turns into dog piling. I feel more at home in nonqueer groups at this point which makes it hard to find places where I can fully express myself as an enby. The best experiences I’ve had are in art communities that happen to have queer people because everyone is pretty expressive.
Discord is a terrible place, so it is not surprising to hear of other negative experiences.
You may have a better time on Stoat. Last time I checked it out(avoid the main server) the people were quite lovely. Wherever you end up, remember that you are valid and you are doing great!