I posted a good faith post about the angry posts coming out of WomensStuff, knowing I was breaking the community’s rules but it was a meta discussion about that rule itself. I guess I wasn’t going to be shocked to be banned there, but again, this was a good faith post that wasn’t trolling. Lots of men were chiming in about the subject itself.
I wake up to find I’ve been banned across multiple communities and servers, because the mods have updated to say, “My blood pressure too high rn.”
Is this was Lemmy actually is? Worse than Reddit because the rules are “fuzzy” and every mod can do whatever they want, because they’re having a bad day?
So you broke rules on purpose in a community for people who experience oppression and are upset when other communities have solidarity with that community and don’t want people who break rules on purpose in their space. Just because other people break rules doesn’t mean you should. Posting while knowingly breaking rules is not actually posting in good faith.
The rules aren’t fuzzy. These mods are trying to protect spaces for vulnerable people and see that you don’t respect those spaces. Seems pretty cut and dry. If you don’t like the way those communities are run, make your own.
Edit to add that additional context has been provided. Apparently the post in question was not a meta discussion and there was no indication that peoples opinions were being solicited. In fact it was a complaint about the way people react towards the community.
Well…
Atleast it’s still mildly infuriating for him/her.
Your comment wasn’t in a meta discussion; it was on a post where they were venting about people complaining about them having a women’s only space. There was certainly no indication that the regular community rules didn’t apply, nor any invitation for men to comment.
Commenting that it’s hostile for them to have a women’s only space might be ironic, but couldn’t possibly be good faith, in that context. And if the same mod banned you from multiple communities, then either it was out of line and you could appeal it, or it was warranted due to the perceived likelihood of you causing problems in those other communities and the perceived low likelihood of you contributing anything of value to them.
Even now, you’re acting like the mod(s) banned you because of her / their emotions. You don’t see how that’s misogynistic?
It makes logical sense for bad actors to be preemptively banned. Emotions have nothing to do with it.
Well what did you post?
I told them their “MEN DON’T POST HERE” posts on the frontpage are hostile, which is the reaction they got from a half dozen folks who were talking about the subject. I talked about my experience as a gay man, wanting more community here on Lemmy, but that I wouldn’t start communities or threads saying “NO STRAIGHT PEOPLE POST HERE” to do it. And I pointed out their community has decided there are only two ways to deal with it.
I get that I broke their rule, and I can be banned there for that - but they didn’t ban me for being a man, they banned me for hurting their feelings.
And now I can’t use LGBTQ and Trans communities as a result. OK, fuck turtlesareneat, he shouldn’t be allowed in queer communities cause he hurt a mod’s feelings.
My dude. That kind of thinking is exactly why women need their own spaces.
You may not realize it, or have ever examined yourself, but you just expressed misogyny in a mild form here, where you have had every chance to pick and choose how you say things to support your opinion that the reason given for the bans was unjustified.
It’s okay for a given group to have their own spaces without intrusion. A gay men’s space should absolutely be able to exclude women and straight men. A straight men’s space should be able to exclude gay men and women.
The only time having dedicated spaces is a problem is when every space is dominated by a single group. And that’s just not the case with a women only space. To the contrary, women struggle to have their voices heard in open spaces where everyone is allowed specifically because men dominate those spaces.
If you, as a man, went and ignored a clearly visible community rule, you absolutely deserve a ban from that community. As well, the fact that you’d blatantly ignore a clearly visible rule in community is a damn good indicator that you think you’re above rules, which means that a mod preemptively banning you from other communities ceases to be an over reaction.
So, I’m going to be harsh as hell in this. You stated that you knew the rule and ignored it. That means you’re either an arrogant asshole, or a petulant child. Neither of which is a good look when trying to claim a mod behaved badly.
If you don’t like or don’t want to see communities that don’t want you to participate, block them and move on. Whether or not they’re right isn’t really important if they’ve made it clear you’re unwelcome, doubly so if you’re going against their own rules. Appeal the others later, if that’s important to you.
Holy shit!
Forgive me for going off topic, but I gotta ping my buddy, @Jerusalemspiderman@lemdro.id
He’s a fellow transmetropolitan fan.
My Spider has the tattoo on his head for real. Used to sometimes do a cosplay of the character.
