It sure would be whatavoutism if I was trying to make one side the good guy or the other guy specifically the bad guy.

My point entirely is that they all do fucked up shit and pretending your favorite tech company is good while the other is evil is some stupid shit.

Use what you like. Accept there are problems and things that could be done better. Get something else if it ticks your boxes.

But to be a braindead tech tribalist by parroting the narrative that foo product users are inherently brainwashed and dumb is irony at its best.