When they say they want to dismantle gender roles, they only mean the gender roles that they perceive as disadvantageous for them. They still want men to perform the gender roles that are disadvantageous for men.
Taking the risk of making the first move is just one example. They don’t want that responsibility, they just want guys who aren’t attractive to them to stop trying to make a first move. Might as well rephrase it as “Just give up, loser. No one will ever love you” because that’s basically the sentiment that’s hiding behind “stop approaching women,” especially when it’s followed up with something like “why won’t men notice me?”
I’m saying that they often get excused with an explanation like “many women have XYZ experience which leads them to making LMNO inferences about men.” And if anyone has the audacity to say “well I’m a man, and I’m not like that,” then they’re flamed even harder. There’s even a hashtag for it. People will hit that dude with a bitingly sarcastic “#notallmen”
And yet when the roles are reversed and someone says “many men have XYZ experience which leads them to making LMNO inferences about women,” suddenly that’s painting with broad strokes and making uncouth generalizations. But nobody can make a sarcastic “#notallwomen” to justify it when faced with pushback.
So yeah, as long as the double-standard exists, then I’ll continue to deconstruct it. I can’t force the world to stop making harmful generalizations about men, but I can revoke the respect that I previously offered that went unreciprocated.
If that makes me a hypocrite, then what does that say about the people who created and reinforced the double-standard to begin with, even when I respectfully pushed back on it, and who will defend it to the bitter end no matter what I say or do?
I’m willing to call a truce whenever the rest of the world is ready, but not if I’m the only one standing in the negotiation field while shells continue to fall around me.
When they say they want to dismantle gender roles, they only mean the gender roles that they perceive as disadvantageous for them. They still want men to perform the gender roles that are disadvantageous for men.
Taking the risk of making the first move is just one example. They don’t want that responsibility, they just want guys who aren’t attractive to them to stop trying to make a first move. Might as well rephrase it as “Just give up, loser. No one will ever love you” because that’s basically the sentiment that’s hiding behind “stop approaching women,” especially when it’s followed up with something like “why won’t men notice me?”
Those are some broad brush strokes.
You mean like the broad brush strokes that men get painted with on a daily basis? 🤯
So you’re saying those are true, and not absolute BS?
I’m saying that they often get excused with an explanation like “many women have XYZ experience which leads them to making LMNO inferences about men.” And if anyone has the audacity to say “well I’m a man, and I’m not like that,” then they’re flamed even harder. There’s even a hashtag for it. People will hit that dude with a bitingly sarcastic “#notallmen”
And yet when the roles are reversed and someone says “many men have XYZ experience which leads them to making LMNO inferences about women,” suddenly that’s painting with broad strokes and making uncouth generalizations. But nobody can make a sarcastic “#notallwomen” to justify it when faced with pushback.
So yeah, as long as the double-standard exists, then I’ll continue to deconstruct it. I can’t force the world to stop making harmful generalizations about men, but I can revoke the respect that I previously offered that went unreciprocated.
If that makes me a hypocrite, then what does that say about the people who created and reinforced the double-standard to begin with, even when I respectfully pushed back on it, and who will defend it to the bitter end no matter what I say or do?
I’m willing to call a truce whenever the rest of the world is ready, but not if I’m the only one standing in the negotiation field while shells continue to fall around me.