I’m just tired of the non stop infantilization of women. Not to mention the only times I really see people commenting on age gaps, they end up being men.
I’m just tired of the non stop infantilization of women.
Really, anyone younger than the reader’s age. It’s how you get some moldy NYT editor insisting 40-year-olds (of the wealthy and powerful) described in the same language as a child.
Simultaneously, we get low income school kids caught in drug stings or busted for petty vandalism or arrested for loitering described as adults.
And don’t even get started on abortion or gender affirming care. Too young to decide for yourself, but never too young to be prosecuted as an adult.
Feels like we’re always moving the goalposts on when adulthood begins.
you don’t think it’s creepy when some 40 year old is dating 18 year olds?
see, I think there are social pressures, verbal and nonverbal cues, mores - whatever you want to call it, that aren’t infantilizing a woman being creeped on by old assholes. they’re expressing a discomfort with something that rarely succeeds and often disrupts normal development.
I’m old. I’ve never seen a 40 year old woman dating an 18 year old man. Ever. I’ve lived in 20+ states and 3 other countries. My experiences aren’t evidence against, but they tell me enough; especially compared to the troves of women I know personally who were catcalled, propositioned, groped and more by men old enough to be their grandfathers, many not even women yet - girls.
So stop worrying about the ‘infantilization’, it’s not a problem compared to the other end of the spectrum, where women and girls are being sexually objectified, groomed and harassed by grown men.
I’m just tired of the non stop infantilization of women. Not to mention the only times I really see people commenting on age gaps, they end up being men.
Really, anyone younger than the reader’s age. It’s how you get some moldy NYT editor insisting 40-year-olds (of the wealthy and powerful) described in the same language as a child.
Simultaneously, we get low income school kids caught in drug stings or busted for petty vandalism or arrested for loitering described as adults.
And don’t even get started on abortion or gender affirming care. Too young to decide for yourself, but never too young to be prosecuted as an adult.
Feels like we’re always moving the goalposts on when adulthood begins.
you don’t think it’s creepy when some 40 year old is dating 18 year olds?
see, I think there are social pressures, verbal and nonverbal cues, mores - whatever you want to call it, that aren’t infantilizing a woman being creeped on by old assholes. they’re expressing a discomfort with something that rarely succeeds and often disrupts normal development.
I’m old. I’ve never seen a 40 year old woman dating an 18 year old man. Ever. I’ve lived in 20+ states and 3 other countries. My experiences aren’t evidence against, but they tell me enough; especially compared to the troves of women I know personally who were catcalled, propositioned, groped and more by men old enough to be their grandfathers, many not even women yet - girls.
So stop worrying about the ‘infantilization’, it’s not a problem compared to the other end of the spectrum, where women and girls are being sexually objectified, groomed and harassed by grown men.