Joining local, small scale gatherings without the explicit goal of getting a date does a few things. For one it makes you more sociable which will help you be attractive in the long run. For another it helps you meet people. For a third, you’ll have fun doing it. All those things develop you as a person which in the long run improve your odds of happiness, and it’s much easier to date a happy, well developed, sociable person than a miserable incel. And you’ll do it without Silicon Valley’s perverse incentives!
My point isn’t that the advice you gave was incorrect; it’s that the person in the meme explicitly would not follow it. The entire joke is that they will never do what is necessary to get a relationship. It doesn’t matter that it’s a sound dating strategy; you’re missing the point.
The meme probably just ironic, but giving such tone deaf advice in a more realistic scenario would definitely come across as condescending. People with genuine issues usually know what they need to do; it’s just that they can’t bring themselves to do it. Telling them what they already know will make them feel bad and won’t make them more likely to act.
I don’t see how this advice would help the OOP at all.
Happy cake day!
Joining local, small scale gatherings without the explicit goal of getting a date does a few things. For one it makes you more sociable which will help you be attractive in the long run. For another it helps you meet people. For a third, you’ll have fun doing it. All those things develop you as a person which in the long run improve your odds of happiness, and it’s much easier to date a happy, well developed, sociable person than a miserable incel. And you’ll do it without Silicon Valley’s perverse incentives!
My point isn’t that the advice you gave was incorrect; it’s that the person in the meme explicitly would not follow it. The entire joke is that they will never do what is necessary to get a relationship. It doesn’t matter that it’s a sound dating strategy; you’re missing the point.
The meme probably just ironic, but giving such tone deaf advice in a more realistic scenario would definitely come across as condescending. People with genuine issues usually know what they need to do; it’s just that they can’t bring themselves to do it. Telling them what they already know will make them feel bad and won’t make them more likely to act.