Well I try to assume the best of everyone, so I would also assume that this was a positive experience. However this does not invalidate my post. Something can be positive and still against consent or negative but under consent. The post pictures the situation in a exploring phase of the dynamic where consent may not be established for edge play or Tunnelspiele ( I don’t know if this even has an English word sorry, it’s a situation that can’t be opted out for example when you eat a hot pepper and have to wait till it’s not spicy anymore)
For me this is not about invalidating BDSM dynamics, I life in a pretty happy one myself. it is about awareness that stuff like this should be discussed and can have a negative impact on the dynamic if it is not.
That’s pretty messed up to me. We don’t need to be rape-jacketing D/s dynamics like this. There’s no reason to assume this was a negative experience.
Well I try to assume the best of everyone, so I would also assume that this was a positive experience. However this does not invalidate my post. Something can be positive and still against consent or negative but under consent. The post pictures the situation in a exploring phase of the dynamic where consent may not be established for edge play or Tunnelspiele ( I don’t know if this even has an English word sorry, it’s a situation that can’t be opted out for example when you eat a hot pepper and have to wait till it’s not spicy anymore)
For me this is not about invalidating BDSM dynamics, I life in a pretty happy one myself. it is about awareness that stuff like this should be discussed and can have a negative impact on the dynamic if it is not.