Proud owner of a tubal litigation here, no kids. I can’t consciously bring one into this world. Took me 15 years after I started asking for one at age 27 for insurance to give me one though. I was finally considered “old enough” to not change my mind about it. Yet another reason under the “this world” stack of reasons.
And I got one in December. Insurance covered it. No questions.
Vasectomies aren’t reversible either apparently. They took a chunk of tube out of each ball and all I had to say was “Yes I’m sure. No no one is compelling me”
I had to convince my primary care physician for a vasectomy. At almost 40. With two kids. He was on the fence about saying yes or no (and I am a military aviator, so I don’t get to have second opinions or choose my doctor). Ultimately he gave his blessing, but it was still a “what the fuck, it’s my goddamn decision, I just need you to write the referral.”
So it happens to men as well, just not as frequently (or as condescendingly, usually).
I got an APRN first for my referral and she told me one of two doctors will need to sign off on this and one of them is chill about young people getting vasectomies the other would want to see me personally to talk me out of it, but would still do it.
I got the chill guy. He made dick jokes mid ball snipping.
I argue that both are selfish decisions, but having a kid eventually drags someone else into that didn’t consent.
I wrote a blog post about it after I got a vasectomy. I’m not an anti-natalist but I think its a point to consider.
https://thinkstoomuch.net/post/selfishsnips/
That was a great read, thanks for sharing 💜
Proud owner of a tubal litigation here, no kids. I can’t consciously bring one into this world. Took me 15 years after I started asking for one at age 27 for insurance to give me one though. I was finally considered “old enough” to not change my mind about it. Yet another reason under the “this world” stack of reasons.
That’s a crazy time frame.
I said in September “I would like a vascectomy”
And I got one in December. Insurance covered it. No questions.
Vasectomies aren’t reversible either apparently. They took a chunk of tube out of each ball and all I had to say was “Yes I’m sure. No no one is compelling me”
The sexism of the medical field is insane to me.
That doesn’t stop people from claiming that they are unfortunately
I had to convince my primary care physician for a vasectomy. At almost 40. With two kids. He was on the fence about saying yes or no (and I am a military aviator, so I don’t get to have second opinions or choose my doctor). Ultimately he gave his blessing, but it was still a “what the fuck, it’s my goddamn decision, I just need you to write the referral.”
So it happens to men as well, just not as frequently (or as condescendingly, usually).
I lucked out I think.
I got an APRN first for my referral and she told me one of two doctors will need to sign off on this and one of them is chill about young people getting vasectomies the other would want to see me personally to talk me out of it, but would still do it.
I got the chill guy. He made dick jokes mid ball snipping.
(You’re awake during a vasectomy)
Thank you, more ppl are realizing that now, I think