• Scrubbles@poptalk.scrubbles.tech
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    20 hours ago

    My favorite reason, they want someone that looks like them. Heard that when I said I’d consider adopting, the other person was like “but don’t you want someone who looks like you?!”

    Uh, no, my cat looks nothing like me but I still somehow mustered empathy for it. I don’t understand why people feel like they would love an adopted kid less, and it makes them horrible people.

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      18 hours ago

      Its fundamental to the urge to reproduce. Its literally the driving force of evolution.

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          15 hours ago

          There is quite literally exactly zero evolutionary pressure to “evolve past it”, since any gene that makes its carrier more likely to care for others children than to have their own will quite quickly be removed from the gene pool.

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            11 hours ago

            Correct. There’s no evolutionary reason to. That’s why I chose the wording, that people should evolve emotionally past their basic instincts and learn empathy for others. I’m literally saying that falling back to basic human instincts and saying “why should I care for others” makes them horrible people.