Well, it is possible to live a life where you can do most of your work remotely, do most of your interaction digitally, such that you can just … not answer a call, not be in a voice chat room, or whatever.
Its not easy to accomplish this, but it is possible.
Pull that off, somehow, and then you have much more control over how often you choose to expose yourself to obnoxious and performative social functions.
But even without that:
Stand up for yourself, politely assert your boundaries and expectations, in any kind of relational context, and if people violate them, go with either a 2 or 3 strikes rule, and then if they keep breaking them… ignore/ghost/avoid them to the greatest extent possible.
“Why are you avoiding me?”
“You were rude to me, after I told you the things I find rude.”
If they, on their own, attempt to apologize, well, judge that per the specifics of that situation.
Well, it is possible to live a life where you can do most of your work remotely, do most of your interaction digitally, such that you can just … not answer a call, not be in a voice chat room, or whatever.
Its not easy to accomplish this, but it is possible.
Pull that off, somehow, and then you have much more control over how often you choose to expose yourself to obnoxious and performative social functions.
But even without that:
Stand up for yourself, politely assert your boundaries and expectations, in any kind of relational context, and if people violate them, go with either a 2 or 3 strikes rule, and then if they keep breaking them… ignore/ghost/avoid them to the greatest extent possible.
“Why are you avoiding me?”
“You were rude to me, after I told you the things I find rude.”
If they, on their own, attempt to apologize, well, judge that per the specifics of that situation.
But don’t encourage or ask them to.
Suffer no fools, ghost all assholes.