Well yea, I don’t think anyone is defending staring. They’re just pointing out the hypocrisy of the few who will do both the, “my eyes are up here” thing to glances and happily wear clothes that show off cleavage and/or curves.
While most individuals understand the mixed results of attraction, there are both hypocrites and some weird sometimes contradictory social norms that say it’s a problem.
No one is defending lechery. IMO it should be obvious that people should be allowed to be sexy whilst not implying any level of consent. To think otherwise is to not understand consent in the first place.
Although it should also be obvious that if you wear something out in public, you’re consenting to being viewed in what ever you’re wearing, too. Not that anyone should be staring or snapping pics, either. That’s impolite at best and probably some level of harassment too.
There are obvious boundaries both on what someone has to accept and what someone doesn’t have to accept.
I think it’s giving entirely too much credit to a commenter trying to justify being called out for staring.
Yeah, some people will overreact. That doesn’t mean you have to take it personally. I think the original commenter has skin that’s too thin and got hurt because someone told them they were doing something that made that person uncomfortable.
Just like people should understand that they’re going to be viewed by others in public, people should also understand that not everyone is going to react in the specific manner you want them to in all circumstances. If they got told off, as it were, get over it and move on. Don’t take it as a deep-seated societal problem they must rail against.
It’s not hypocrisy to act with emotion, it is however hypocrisy to criticize someone for acting emotionally when you defend your actions as emotional in nature.
Well yea, I don’t think anyone is defending staring. They’re just pointing out the hypocrisy of the few who will do both the, “my eyes are up here” thing to glances and happily wear clothes that show off cleavage and/or curves.
While most individuals understand the mixed results of attraction, there are both hypocrites and some weird sometimes contradictory social norms that say it’s a problem.
“They were dressed all sexy like” isn’t an adequate justification for acting like a lecher. And we shouldn’t normalize it being so.
No one is defending lechery. IMO it should be obvious that people should be allowed to be sexy whilst not implying any level of consent. To think otherwise is to not understand consent in the first place.
Although it should also be obvious that if you wear something out in public, you’re consenting to being viewed in what ever you’re wearing, too. Not that anyone should be staring or snapping pics, either. That’s impolite at best and probably some level of harassment too.
There are obvious boundaries both on what someone has to accept and what someone doesn’t have to accept.
I think it’s giving entirely too much credit to a commenter trying to justify being called out for staring.
Yeah, some people will overreact. That doesn’t mean you have to take it personally. I think the original commenter has skin that’s too thin and got hurt because someone told them they were doing something that made that person uncomfortable.
Just like people should understand that they’re going to be viewed by others in public, people should also understand that not everyone is going to react in the specific manner you want them to in all circumstances. If they got told off, as it were, get over it and move on. Don’t take it as a deep-seated societal problem they must rail against.
It’s not hypocrisy to act with emotion, it is however hypocrisy to criticize someone for acting emotionally when you defend your actions as emotional in nature.