Seriously. Every form of entertainment has baked-in political assumptions, and that definitely includes #ttrpg . You might choose not to examine them, but this is an active choice on your part, and you don’t get to pretend that your entertainment is “free of politics”.
The Irony, is that while at least in my local community, the young generation includes a lot of openly neurodivergent gay/enbi players, I feel like that the reason why the theme is so sensitive for older player is that many of the older player never thought the time to question about-it, you know, the 50 year old “straight” conventionally attractive long term single who always play the other gender, may not just be too busy to date
I’m in a pretty progressive city. My group’s 60 year old man was married to his husband. The rest of us are in our 40s and I’m pretty sure wouldn’t even notice same sex couples or cross dressing (though, in worlds with magic, proper transition ought to be available so no one might be able to notice anything but magician shopfronts advertising sex changes)