I’m trying to get you to understand that you’ve been coming off like a dick and trying to help you not come off like a dick, because I believe in what you’re trying to do, and coming off as a dick is hurting the cause of things we both want in this world.
Telling people that you aren’t coming off as a dick (i.e. condescending) is saying their feelings aren’t valid and is being a dick. So yeah, you were telling people how to feel. “Well I wasn’t trying to be a dick so you shouldn’t feel like I was being a dick” isn’t a great for you, me, or our mutual cause.
I appreciate your intent, but I don’t see the problem you’re seeing. I’m not being condescendng by saying so, I just fundamentally don’t see the problems with what I’m saying from an optics perspective that you claim to see.
That’s why I’m pretty sure you have been more invested in talking than listening, because I’ve been trying to get you to see the problem for days now my man.
You are terrible at showing that you’ve been listening.
Look man your heart is in the right place but your approach is very academic and comes off as patronizing, it might be time to talk to people irl about noon political stuff, might help when talking to people outside of the usual socialist social circle.
See, I do talk to people IRL (both about politics and non-political things) and you’re being patronizing by insinuating that I don’t. This is why I don’t really see why you’d be helpful for me.
I was genuinely saying that not to be an insult, you just come off as the guy who just talks down to people using jargon, and figured talking to people outside of where that might be more of a norm would help. I apologize.
Apology accepted. I understand that that’s what you percieve about me, but that just generally isn’t a common thing for when people talk to me. I don’t get that frequently, and I talk to a lot of people, online and offline. That’s why I don’t see it as a broader issue, but a smaller and particular one, which is why I focused on further explaining myself.
I’m trying to get you to understand that you’ve been coming off like a dick and trying to help you not come off like a dick, because I believe in what you’re trying to do, and coming off as a dick is hurting the cause of things we both want in this world.
Telling people that you aren’t coming off as a dick (i.e. condescending) is saying their feelings aren’t valid and is being a dick. So yeah, you were telling people how to feel. “Well I wasn’t trying to be a dick so you shouldn’t feel like I was being a dick” isn’t a great for you, me, or our mutual cause.
I appreciate your intent, but I don’t see the problem you’re seeing. I’m not being condescendng by saying so, I just fundamentally don’t see the problems with what I’m saying from an optics perspective that you claim to see.
That’s why I’m pretty sure you have been more invested in talking than listening, because I’ve been trying to get you to see the problem for days now my man.
I understand, but the fact that I don’t see it doesn’t mean that I haven’t been listening.
You are terrible at showing that you’ve been listening.
Look man your heart is in the right place but your approach is very academic and comes off as patronizing, it might be time to talk to people irl about noon political stuff, might help when talking to people outside of the usual socialist social circle.
See, I do talk to people IRL (both about politics and non-political things) and you’re being patronizing by insinuating that I don’t. This is why I don’t really see why you’d be helpful for me.
I was genuinely saying that not to be an insult, you just come off as the guy who just talks down to people using jargon, and figured talking to people outside of where that might be more of a norm would help. I apologize.
Apology accepted. I understand that that’s what you percieve about me, but that just generally isn’t a common thing for when people talk to me. I don’t get that frequently, and I talk to a lot of people, online and offline. That’s why I don’t see it as a broader issue, but a smaller and particular one, which is why I focused on further explaining myself.