Even worse, give a hint that you have mental health struggles, even if you don’t actually do anything bad.
People instantly see you as lesser.
I learned the hard way to never vent to friends. Just give them a few bones, and pretend to be the perfect, ideal version of yourself that you can be. Tell them enough shows you like, and they will find one they are strongly opposed to. Complain about issues enough, and you become an energy draining vampire. Etc, etc.
It’s better to expect nothing from everyone, recognize that anything you gain from humans has a cost, and to remove yourself from human influences as fast as possible.
I’m guessing you’re also an American. I feel you, friend. The US has a cultural toxic positivity problem, amongst other issues. Got a problem? STFU and turn that frown upside down! They’re not problems but opportunities! It could be worse! It is… what it is. 🫠
So people bottle up their negative emotions and don’t learn how to deal with them. They don’t know how to seek OR give support. Some feel threatened when presented with someone else’s negative emotions, and it doesn’t help that the other usually doesn’t know how to present them, so they try to make it go away.
I have no idea how to fix it on a societal level beyond learning to do better ourselves and setting a good example for others.
Thought stopping statements really piss me off. The only thing they do is confuse me because they don’t provide forward momentum.
I think emotion management should be taught in school, starting in pre k and continued as the child grows up. This way they know how to hold space for people, understand boundaries, how to manage themselves. Everyone will have healthier relationships if this happens.
Even worse, give a hint that you have mental health struggles, even if you don’t actually do anything bad.
People instantly see you as lesser.
I learned the hard way to never vent to friends. Just give them a few bones, and pretend to be the perfect, ideal version of yourself that you can be. Tell them enough shows you like, and they will find one they are strongly opposed to. Complain about issues enough, and you become an energy draining vampire. Etc, etc.
It’s better to expect nothing from everyone, recognize that anything you gain from humans has a cost, and to remove yourself from human influences as fast as possible.
I’m guessing you’re also an American. I feel you, friend. The US has a cultural toxic positivity problem, amongst other issues. Got a problem? STFU and turn that frown upside down! They’re not problems but opportunities! It could be worse! It is… what it is. 🫠
So people bottle up their negative emotions and don’t learn how to deal with them. They don’t know how to seek OR give support. Some feel threatened when presented with someone else’s negative emotions, and it doesn’t help that the other usually doesn’t know how to present them, so they try to make it go away.
I have no idea how to fix it on a societal level beyond learning to do better ourselves and setting a good example for others.
Thought stopping statements really piss me off. The only thing they do is confuse me because they don’t provide forward momentum.
I think emotion management should be taught in school, starting in pre k and continued as the child grows up. This way they know how to hold space for people, understand boundaries, how to manage themselves. Everyone will have healthier relationships if this happens.
It is really silly that it’s not taught.
Physical Education? Check.
Academics? Check.
Emotional Intelligence? Whoa whoa whoa there, slow down now, that’s not for public education. That’s done in the home, with Jesus!
Well, thank you for the understanding, but I actually live somewhere known as Serbia.
Here, if Rakija doesn’t solve it, you are just a pussy 😭
I know Serbia and rakija! It reminds me of grappa. Sorry you’re also stuck in a toxic society and have the curse of knowing it could be better.