Is it something that happens?

Not sure where to look for information or how to better phrase questions.

Sorry. Thank you for any guidance or advice you might be able to provide.

  • Jul (they/she)@piefed.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    15·
    2 months ago

    I’m agender.

    For me I separate gender into three components.

    1. The way I feel about myself
    2. The body parts my physical body says are right
    3. The way I present to society.

    For #1, I never have felt an inherent gender and identify as agender.

    For #2, I have always felt like my penis was not part of me or not supposed to be there and have always felt an ache in the perineum where I should be able to insert something. This lead me to wanting bottom surgery. And eventually I realized that breasts felt right.

    For #3, I mostly got tired of how boring it is to appear male as well as the clothes. And I don’t like the emotional repression involved in toxic masculinity. And finally, it is difficult to have parts of a woman and not appear as one due to the bathroom bills and other dangerous situations. So I present feminine.

    Gender has many aspects, you dont have to force all of those aspects to the same extreme or the other.

    • Flame@bark.lgbt
      6·
      2 months ago

      @irotsoma @quietlavender Huh, interesting. That seems pretty close to what I’m experiencing for myself. I don’t consider myself agender, but I feel pretty ambivalent towards gender. I might as well be a genderless entity for all I care. Gender presentation is a thing that I struggle with a lot, be it being masculine or being feminine, but your reasons for presenting feminine makes sense to me and I can see that for myself too. And yeah, physically I want to be a woman. It just feels more right. So, thanks for your post I guess. It kind of helped me think about my relationship to my gender and eased some of my insecurities I’ve had over it.

      TLDR Gender is hard.

      • Jul (they/she)@piefed.blahaj.zoneEnglish
        2·
        2 months ago

        Glad it’s helpful. Gender is complex despite the propaganda from the far right trying to demonize gender-non-compliant people. Deconstructing things into their base components and analyzing them separately helps me a lot.