I’m getting more confident in myself and starting to come out to more people, but I feel like I don’t know how to? It always feels awkward.

Obviously for some people it might need to be more of a conversation, but for friends that I know will be supportive, does it need to be anything more than a text saying “hey, fyi, I’m trans. This is my new name and pronouns”?

  • pooberbee (they/she)@lemmy.mlEnglish
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    3 days ago

    I’ve found that a lot of people benefit from a phased approach, and in general saying “I’m trans and these are my name and pronouns” is a good beginning.

    Some people are curious and will ask questions. I always take a second to think about the question: is it being asked in good faith and do I feel like answering it? I especially took that approach with my parents, who are not accepting.

    Some people are curious but won’t ask questions for fear of prying. I’ve tried to be more forthcoming with friends like that so they don’t have to ask, but it also sometimes feels like I’m over-sharing.

    Some people are not curious for whatever reason. I came out to those people simply, and that was it.

    In any case, how people react initially isn’t a great indicator of their long-term response. My experience has been that coming out is easy initially, but staying out is sometimes hard.