She understands I’m sure

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    Are ‘muricans really this obsessed with cars that the model or car you drive affects your dating prospects?

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      Are you really so arrogant as to believe that perception of socio-economic class is exclusively an American consideration when it comes to dating?

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        No, but the fact that a car is seen as an indication of socio-economic class is.

        Plenty of people who drive really nice cars who are broke as fuck and plenty of people who could easily afford a luxury car who drive a 20 year old piece of junk.

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      Yes and it cuts both ways. Prior to transition when I was driving an Infiniti I got female attention but driving beat up Hyundais and Fords the only attention I got was from the police, like driving around with a sign that says, “pull me over”.

      Post transition my life circumstances are much better but the cars affect my dating prospects totally differently. Driving a brand new performance model EV in 2022 I had at least two dates where the guy would lose all interest in me once they saw I was driving a car that costed several times their annual income.

      You could literally see all interest melt off their face, “my car is the white sedan, can you drop me off there?”

      Immediate flip from being warm and engaged to this cold, “gtfo out of my Nissan” vibe

      You can’t have a shitty car as a man and you can’t have a nicer car as a trans woman

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        Driving a brand new performance model EV in 2022 I had at least two dates where the guy would lose all interest in me once they saw I was driving a car that costed several times their annual income.

        Sounds like you dodged at least 2 bullets.

        Wait “performance model EV” wasn’t a Tesla, was it? They may have been in fear for their lives.

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      Decades of propaganda by the auto industry, especially through cinema and TV, has programmed people to think that if you don’t have a nice car you won’t get laid.

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      It’s less about the car specifically as it is about what the car says about your level of wealth and spending habits

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      It’s a class war thing more than anything. Cops will pick on you more if you drive certain models of cars or a car that’s a total clunker with a busted window that’s taped up. Most people here don’t really care what you drive in the dating world unless you come from a wealthier background and are a snooty dick about it.

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      16 hours ago

      Sorta related, but I live outside of America without a car or any intention to get one now - dating like this would be impossible in America.