• bstix@feddit.dk
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    9 hours ago

    I miss my first apartment. I had more furniture, but life was simple. At least for a while.

    My mistake was to help a friend out by inviting him for a beer after work. He had broken up with his girlfriend and needed a place of his own. I got him into an apartment in my building. Big mistake. The guy just couldn’t figure out how to be alone by himself. Every day just as I got home from work and sat down in my lawnchair, he’d ring my doorbell within 5 minutes wanting to hang out. It was alright for a while, but I soon got enough of socializing in all my free time. I’d rather be alone and do creative projects and such.

    I told him off several times and explained how I needed personal time for myself, but he’d be back the very next day, not understanding how personal time could possibly take more than a few hours.

    For the remaining time I lived there, I’d leave the door open, and just go on about my day whether or not he was around. The serenity was broken anyway.

    • Regrettable_incident@lemmy.world
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      9 hours ago

      Yeah, I’ve also known people who can’t handle being on their own at all. It’s not obvious if they spread themselves amongst a bunch of different people. I’m the exact opposite, I guess somewhere in the middle is the sweet spot.

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        6 hours ago

        I am this guy and I mostly mitigated it by being active in a bunch of different circles. I’m known amongst my friends as the guy that has way too many hobbies. That said when I’m alone I almost invariably play fighting games or narrative driven games (and the occasional rogue lite such as vampire survivors, ball x pit, monster train, slay the spire, etc) . I’m an insomniac and often am up twenty hours a day. I took up dancing 3 nights a week as a way to be social and stay healthy.