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Is ‘serving fish’, a metaphor I’m too sheltered to understand, or is that like, you’re serving fish on a tray for humans to eat?
originally “fish” was a misogynistic slur used by gay men to refer to cis women (to show their disgust for vagina as smelling of fish, etc.), and from that developed the phrase “serving fish” which means someone looks or seems like a cis woman (usually applied to drag queens and trans women in a positive and affirming way - it’s a compliment) … it’s admittedly maybe a more popular / common phrase in drag and gay subcultures
the context was that I didn’t want to be in photos, and as I moved away from the camera, the group started complaining - they thought I was avoiding the camera because I thought I was too ugly / not passing (fair assumption), so the transmasc guy was trying to reassure me by saying I was “serving fish”, and others chimed in that “you’re fish, get in here”, etc. thinking that this would convince me I should be comfortable having my photo taken.
That sounds like a really unpleasant term either way, but maybe I don’t hang around enough gay men for it