• OneWomanCreamTeam@sh.itjust.works
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    10 hours ago

    You’re swapping issues. Cheating is when you break the mutually agreed upon terms of a relationship via sex. To determine if something is cheating one must examine the boundaries of the person not involved in the sex.

    The consent of the people involved in the sex is typically examined to determine if the event classified as Rape/SA, not to determine if the event is classified as cheating.

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      10 hours ago

      tell that to the user whom I replied that.

      "I think the term “cheating” inherently means that the person not involved isn’t fine with it. "

      isn’t fine with it had zilth to do with consent.

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        "I think the term “cheating” inherently means that the person not involved isn’t fine with it. "

        Is precisely correct.

        Edit: in clarification. If your stated, mutually agreed upon, boundaries aren’t being broken then you aren’t being cheated on. If you’re ok with your partner fucking other people, but told them you aren’t for some reason, then I guess them fucking someone else would technically be cheating. But you should really learn how to accurately describe your boundaries with your partner.

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          yes, but that was a response to consent in sex, and not being ok with it, isn’t the same category as “third party not consented to sex” which implies rape".

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              again. “not being fine it” ≠ “not consenting for sex not isn’t involved with”. when people have sex only the consent of persons involved in matters. still a shitty thing to do.