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Cake day: June 30th, 2023

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  • The worst part… it works. E.g. on me, and i know. It is difficult to see these kind of posts, which are clearly misandry, and then hear people deny the trend for misandry, especially online.

    OBVIOUSLY there is a shit tonne of misogyny, especially online and that is a big problem. But we shouldn’t ignore the trend to misandry. It is not a competition and we fight against misogyny better if we fight sexism in general, I believe.

    But the posts make me feel like a shocking amount of people are not against sexism but just misogyny. How am I supposed to feel like those are not my enemy when I am opposed to sexism?

    Then I spend time with the people that I love and I am good again but… it is fucking poison.





  • I am not saying that’s all that matter

    she still got beauty […] it isn’t game over for her

    “I am not reducing her to her appearance, but if she wasn’t pretty in my opinion, it would be game over for her” that is how this reads. Look at the votes and realise that is what you sound like. If you feel and think differently to that, reflect on how you communicate your thoughts. I doubt you would want to tell e.g. a close female friend something that she would understand like that.

    Your whole statement circles around the idea that while you agree that she is less healthy, she is still pretty and consequently, you think she will be fine. And that might be a understandable (while sad) perspective from a business perspective but you joined a conversation about her health. By moving the conversation away from her health towards her beauty (a very subjective matter, which is especially important in situation), you are communicating that you believe that a focus on her beauty is relevant.

    Now i understand that you might be reacting to other people’s comments and you feel like they called her ugly and you don’t think she is. But instead of stating that, e.g. by saying “while it seems like she is less healthy right now, let’s not call her ugly, that is just mean. And personally, i still think she is pretty” but by saying things that imply that her value is in her matching your aesthetic sense.

    I want to assume that your heart is in the right but your words are not.














  • any other way of outreach

    The sharing of phone numbers isn’t relevant because my comment wasn’t about getting called or messaged.

    If you want to be like “but the sharing of numbers made being called randomly the norm and consequently normalised in people’s experiences” then you are still missing my point. My point wasn’t about marketing calls (which are also weird as fuck and a turnoff) but specifically being contacted by someone doing propaganda for a country, especially in the context of geopolitics. How many calls do Americans get from Taiwan about it’s (primarily) historic claim to be the legitimate government of all of China (including mainland)? How many emails do Americans get from Sudan and South Sudan about their border disputes? How often do they answer the door for a person to argue South Korean claim on the north korea? Or maybe their border disputes with Japan?

    Actually, I am being a bit unfair with my examples. How many calls do Americans get from Taiwanese supporters that America needs to support Taiwan in their right to exist?