Does no one else notice that both of these responses point out that how the recipient feels makes a difference? They’re addressing the unfortunately most common experience, but also including that how you feel or if you’re okay with it is important.
As for the “bias” being presented here, there’s nothing wrong with responding to unequal things unequally. Women are far more likely to experience unwanted touching and that’s just the sad reality.











At least most responses seem to be pushing back on OP’s implication that this is some kind of double standard.