Hashing things through / working things out refers both to letting go or doing hard things you don’t want to do, to be sure.
The reason that there is almost no confusion between what things are hard to do, and what things are difficult to let go of, is that although we generally acknowledge they are similar in nature, they require completely different solutions, and we often instinctively know which is which, to the degree that we can talk with buddies and just know they are processing a “threshold task” or need to let go of something.
If we do not instinctively know, it is almost always the latter, something that is difficult to let go of, that is pretending to be a hard thing you must do. They can fill your mind with mind traps and masquerade as things it’s not, by appealing to your aversion. What to remember with these, especially if recurring is that when that task is complete, you aren’t really finished. Revenge is a good example of this.
You will easily identify these by asking yourself sincerely what would happen if you completely ignored the problem. Often it would not be fatal and can then be categorized forever as a hurdle that is meant to fly away, and handled by rehabilitizing your Mind step by step.
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Hashing things through / working things out refers both to letting go or doing hard things you don’t want to do, to be sure.
The reason that there is almost no confusion between what things are hard to do, and what things are difficult to let go of, is that although we generally acknowledge they are similar in nature, they require completely different solutions, and we often instinctively know which is which, to the degree that we can talk with buddies and just know they are processing a “threshold task” or need to let go of something.
If we do not instinctively know, it is almost always the latter, something that is difficult to let go of, that is pretending to be a hard thing you must do. They can fill your mind with mind traps and masquerade as things it’s not, by appealing to your aversion. What to remember with these, especially if recurring is that when that task is complete, you aren’t really finished. Revenge is a good example of this.
You will easily identify these by asking yourself sincerely what would happen if you completely ignored the problem. Often it would not be fatal and can then be categorized forever as a hurdle that is meant to fly away, and handled by rehabilitizing your Mind step by step.