So I made a very dumb mistake. I have been using hair removal cream for the last month or so and getting good results. My skin was handling it well and the grow-back was much softer and slower than shaving. Good times.
Yesterday I didn’t time it correctly and left it on certain areas too long. I didn’t realise that 2-6 minutes was a strict upper range and that it’s dangerous to leave it on longer.
So yeah, I took too long and now I have a very unpleasant chemical burn on both my ass cheeks. I had to cancel plans so I can sit inside with my butt in air while it heals.
Setbacks like this have really thrown me into downward spirals in the past, and I was very upset at first, but I’m trying to move past it, see the funny side, and pick myself up.
Early transition can feel a lot like you’re fumbling around in the dark sometimes. I wish I had a community-assigned trans mentor with me at all times to gently warn me when I’m about to do something stupid.
Alternatively, maybe some of you have some similar mistakes that you can look back and smile or laugh at now, and maybe if you share them I can feel less like a dumb idiot while I wait for my ass to cool off.
i wouldn’t trade it for the world but damn I had ZERO fashion sense for the first year or so of coming out. baby trans phase is such a real thing 😭 striped thigh highs and amazon skater skirt with hyper feminine tops I looked like a fool, hard to classify as a mistake when I don’t regret it but its worth a mention lol
i also got some nasty burns using hair removal cream before, they made me just endure the shaving enough to make my skin happy with it cus its a pain to buy the stuff and apply it so often
I’ll take anything i can get! It’s easy to look at your peers and think they’ve all got it together so well, but i know I’m comparing my private experience to others’ public one and that’s never a fair comparison.
Also I adore dorky early transition fashion, it’s always so cute to see people finding themselves!
absolutely, be easy on yourself theres plenty of mistakes that’ll be made, its how we learn :)
and yeah 100% I never stop early transition trans girls lol, if they ask me for confirmation to buy some goofy ahh clothes I’ll tell them no you probably shouldn’t but do it anyway you’ll be happy
Yeah, I’d like to do the baby trans thing if I were younger and didn’t have kids in school. The place I live is accepting but judgemental, if that makes sense. I don’t want to put my kids through any more stress than they’re already going through. So I’m going to be boymoding until it doesn’t work and then going to sensible adult fashion 🥱.
Yeah i think so. Not inherently hateful, but somewhat conservative around how everybody ought to comport themselves? Meaning they’ll accept you for who you are, as long as nobody is too “extra” about it? If true, then that’s not great, but also not terrible. I wish for you that you could present exactly as you would like to and that people would mind their own fucking business about things that dont affect or concern them. But that doesn’t change your reality.
Maybe once in a while, if it’s something you want, you might find a chance to take a night off from being sensible, some time or place where it doesn’t impact anyone else, and you can dork out and enjoy it. I respect that you are always thinking about your kids feelings though. That’s being a good mom <3.
It’s more of a "I don’t necessarily like it and will say hurtful things behind their back but believe they should have a legal right and am able to keep my opinions to myself for the sake of civility. Norwegians are very conflict avoidant except for their neighbours.
Thanks for explaining your perspective. It sounds tough. <3.
I don’t think I’d be in any real danger or anything, but my kids would definitely get bullied for it.
Did someone say baby trans? This is me last summer.
I hope your ass feels better. That’s a great story to look back on and laugh!
Aw such a lovely photo!
i personally went only really really slowly with my style, which i guess did work out. but honestly i respect you and your drive IMMENSELY and am a little jealous i didn’t do that myself earlier on… i suppose better late than never though :D