My mom said shit like: “[some random friend/relative] is only 21 and already graduated college and gotten married and have a kid (which means presumably they have their own separate house), why are y’all [directed at me and my older brother] such failures?”
Mom: “I grew up with nothing, your grandparents didn’t give us anything, yet look at how much I’ve built [they have like a few hundred thousand to possibly 1 mill USD in assets], why can’t you do the same?”
And funny thing is she also admitted that luck is part of the equation, but then still shamed us anyways…
Like she often points to my cousin around my age that apprantly is doing some bussiness stuff overseas and made millions in profits…
And like
Oh this is funny:
“Look at NYC! An IMMIGRANT BECAME MAYOR! [she’s talking about Mamdani] You came here at 8 years old, why can’t you be just like him?”
I’m so sorry to hear of what you and your brother have been going through. It’s not your fault, it’s not his fault, it’s not the fault of so many other countless young adults who have far fewer opportunities.
I, and many other older folks, are rooting for you. Hang in there and go easy on yourselves.
I read somewhere that like 60 percent of adults under 30 still live with their parents. You should ask your mom how her generation screwed up everything for their kids.
Yeah 2 of ours plus the girlfriend of one of my daughters live with us. The couple both have pretty good jobs and are saving up to get a place in the summer, then we will be down to one, the last in a very long line of children. I’m not in a hurry, my mom kicked me out at 17 and it really set me back in life. Have been through this several times with mine, they do leave when they want to, and eventually they want to. Having time to work & not pay rent helps with getting started on adult life.
Two of my kids live with us, between 25 and 30. Our third (in that age range) lives with his biological dad. Though part of that is for health reasons.
(okay jokes aside, I was told my generation was “supposed” to have it better than theirs… in terms of like them growing up in Mainland China 60s/70s vs me having the opportunity to emigrate during childhood… but maybe I just got very bad luck and mom got extremely lucky in terms of “being successful in life”)
My older brother is 28 and still with us… 🤷♂️
My mom said shit like: “[some random friend/relative] is only 21 and already graduated college and gotten married and have a kid (which means presumably they have their own separate house), why are y’all [directed at me and my older brother] such failures?”
(I’m Chinese American btw)
All that at 21 is crazy. I am barely at uni at 19
Just gesture vaguely to the world around you.
Mom: “I grew up with nothing, your grandparents didn’t give us anything, yet look at how much I’ve built [they have like a few hundred thousand to possibly 1 mill USD in assets], why can’t you do the same?”
And funny thing is she also admitted that luck is part of the equation, but then still shamed us anyways…
Like she often points to my cousin around my age that apprantly is doing some bussiness stuff overseas and made millions in profits…
And like
Oh this is funny:
“Look at NYC! An IMMIGRANT BECAME MAYOR! [she’s talking about Mamdani] You came here at 8 years old, why can’t you be just like him?”
😭
Idk mom, Mamdani’s mom seems nicer than you… maybe that’s why… lmfao
throw it back at her how lousy of a parent she was. win your arguments if you want to stop hearing it.
I’m so sorry to hear of what you and your brother have been going through. It’s not your fault, it’s not his fault, it’s not the fault of so many other countless young adults who have far fewer opportunities.
I, and many other older folks, are rooting for you. Hang in there and go easy on yourselves.
You are our future.
I read somewhere that like 60 percent of adults under 30 still live with their parents. You should ask your mom how her generation screwed up everything for their kids.
Yeah 2 of ours plus the girlfriend of one of my daughters live with us. The couple both have pretty good jobs and are saving up to get a place in the summer, then we will be down to one, the last in a very long line of children. I’m not in a hurry, my mom kicked me out at 17 and it really set me back in life. Have been through this several times with mine, they do leave when they want to, and eventually they want to. Having time to work & not pay rent helps with getting started on adult life.
Two of my kids live with us, between 25 and 30. Our third (in that age range) lives with his biological dad. Though part of that is for health reasons.
Her generation…
Well I mean…
Mao’s little red books intensifies
(okay jokes aside, I was told my generation was “supposed” to have it better than theirs… in terms of like them growing up in Mainland China 60s/70s vs me having the opportunity to emigrate during childhood… but maybe I just got very bad luck and mom got extremely lucky in terms of “being successful in life”)