• Anivia@feddit.org
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    8 hours ago

    I mean, thank you for your advice, but I’ve been dating for quite a while now so I already learned I have to tone it down. It just feels frustrating having to pretend I’m less interested than I actually am, when I’m usually a person that hates being dishonest

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      8 hours ago

      But the reasons to be put off by lovebombing are justified. You’re a stranger juggling knives and frustrated that they’re backing away lol

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        I mean they keep acknowledging that it kinda just seems you’re telling them that they have no choice but to pretend they’re someone different than who they are

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        7 hours ago

        Yes, I am well aware. I just know that lovebombing can also be seen, like in this greentext, as a deliberate manipulation tactic (and often probably is). My original comment was just meant to show the other side, that it isn’t always a manipulation attempt. And I’m absolutely not saying they are in the wrong for being weary of it.

        I am childfree, and it’s very hard in my country to find women that also never want children, so I get overly excited when I find one that is willing to go on a date with me. I have learned to tone it down