So? That’s their problem. There are people who’d dance on my grave if I died tomorrow, too, and what they think has just as little bearing on my decision to keep living. Categorically irrelevant. You can’t show someone the beauty and joy of living by dragging them through shame. Worse still, pegging your self-worth to others’ suffering creates an implicit threshold, a thought stuck in the back of your mind: “What if the suffering I cause now is more than the momentary pain I’d cause by stopping?”
It feels good to tell people things like this. It’s one of the most awful things to hear.
I think they may have meant that you don’t get to decide on how other victims of depression feel about suicide. Nobody else shares your life, experiences, and values so iyou shouldn’t assert what they should do with their lives.
If that’s the case they were trying to make, then they didn’t do the best job explaining themselves. Or I could have completely misunderstood their comment
so if it’s their problem why are you resenting them for not sharing in your views? why do you feel compelled to pass judgement on them for not sharing your philosophy and feelings on life?
So? That’s their problem. There are people who’d dance on my grave if I died tomorrow, too, and what they think has just as little bearing on my decision to keep living. Categorically irrelevant. You can’t show someone the beauty and joy of living by dragging them through shame. Worse still, pegging your self-worth to others’ suffering creates an implicit threshold, a thought stuck in the back of your mind: “What if the suffering I cause now is more than the momentary pain I’d cause by stopping?”
It feels good to tell people things like this. It’s one of the most awful things to hear.
I think they may have meant that you don’t get to decide on how other victims of depression feel about suicide. Nobody else shares your life, experiences, and values so iyou shouldn’t assert what they should do with their lives.
If that’s the case they were trying to make, then they didn’t do the best job explaining themselves. Or I could have completely misunderstood their comment
so if it’s their problem why are you resenting them for not sharing in your views? why do you feel compelled to pass judgement on them for not sharing your philosophy and feelings on life?
I’m sorry, I’m not sure I understand. Who are “they,” and what is “that” in your initial reply?