• GraniteM@lemmy.world
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    1 day ago

    If you can’t bring more to a relationship than an appliance can, then you’ve got to work on yourself.

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      15 hours ago

      This is a bad take. There’s nothing wrong with using toys during sex. There’s nothing wrong with your partner using a toy on you instead of their body nor is there nothing wrong with your partner just enjoying witnessing you using a toy on yourself. As long as everyone is enjoying themselves and everything is consensual and safe, who cares?

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        11 hours ago

        I fully agree with everything you just said. My point was that if you bring so little to the table that you feel you’re in danger of being successfully replaced by a toy, then you need to do some self-improvement.

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          5 hours ago

          I guess I can agree with that with the caveat that the self improvement should be understanding that the presence of a toy in sex isn’t replacing you at all. Wanting to use a toy with someone is not replacing them.