I think you misunderstood me. There is no obligation. I’m saying there’s a standard default expectation of an intimate relationship of sex.
So, when, by default, you think of two people entering a relationship, by default, the VAST majority of people will assume those two people are gonna eventually have sex. That’s all I’m saying.
But also, that fully asexual people exist, and polyam people exist, and all kinds of others, and relationships are simply what you make of them or want them to be and come in all shapes, sizes, tastes, sounds, and colors.
There’s never an obligation for anything, and expectations are fluid af. Even parental relationships, there’s no obligation to trust or care for your parents.
Do people love each other because they have sex or do they have sex because they love each other? I would say (hope?) that most people are the second, so rather than an expectation, I would say that it is a consequence.
It definitely goes either way or even neither way. You can have sex without love and love without sex. You can have relationships with both or neither. And, things can always change or even change back or be fluxative. You can even have NO relationship with any of this stuff, too. Or directional relationships or one to many or many to many relationships! Oh my!
But, as far as I know, it’s still the assumed default nature with intimate relationships. Do we want to change that?
Obligation:
Of course couples can have sex, but nobody can be forced to do it by pointing to their obligation due to the relationship
I think you misunderstood me. There is no obligation. I’m saying there’s a standard default expectation of an intimate relationship of sex.
So, when, by default, you think of two people entering a relationship, by default, the VAST majority of people will assume those two people are gonna eventually have sex. That’s all I’m saying.
But also, that fully asexual people exist, and polyam people exist, and all kinds of others, and relationships are simply what you make of them or want them to be and come in all shapes, sizes, tastes, sounds, and colors.
There’s never an obligation for anything, and expectations are fluid af. Even parental relationships, there’s no obligation to trust or care for your parents.
Sorry, then I might have misunderstood your point. I agree with what you’re saying.
Do people love each other because they have sex or do they have sex because they love each other? I would say (hope?) that most people are the second, so rather than an expectation, I would say that it is a consequence.
It definitely goes either way or even neither way. You can have sex without love and love without sex. You can have relationships with both or neither. And, things can always change or even change back or be fluxative. You can even have NO relationship with any of this stuff, too. Or directional relationships or one to many or many to many relationships! Oh my!