I took this meme from @N33R@fops.cloud on Mastodon. She’s a transfem from Germany (iirc) and has one of the best senses of humor I have ever seen. Give her a follow!
also I visited my sister’s place and the really nice stray is still there!! shoutout Chester the kitty!!
Therapy. You pass 100% in that pic. Go to therapy.
Go to a photo editor and left-right flip/mirror it. You won’t recognize yourself as well.
Another thing you can do is set your phone down and record a video of yourself walking or moving. Make sure to put the phone at the eye-height of whoever you’re trying to be seen by, and far away enough that lens distortion doesn’t affect it much, and close enough that you can still see your face to your feet. Then left-right mirror that video. You’ll get the closest you can get to accurately seeing yourself, and the most honest take. If you want to have it be even more accurate, don’t watch the video, and forget about it for like six months and then finally watch it then. Time will have passed, and you’ll have changed even more yeah, but I find those are the times when I can truly see myself as if I were somebody else and have it feel fair and accurate.
Figuring out how you really look and eliminating bias is SUPER difficult. But once you get it, I’ve found is very worth it. It does require a bit of vanity. But really, be gentle with yourself, you’re way, way more attractive than you can possibly understand right now. And remember, you only get older from here. Take care of yourself and practice moderation, but try to have fun, this is your life.