• okwhateverdude@lemmy.world
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    23 hours ago

    At that point just say “Nice tits” and get the awkwardness out of the way. I ain’t playing your little power game as one of those friends.

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      12 hours ago

      If you don’t play their power game then they wind up with a recording of you saying that which they’ll save indefinitely in case you ever run for political office.

      Also so they can assassinate your character if you ever mildly inconvenience them.

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        12 hours ago

        bruh, ain’t no body in the political class here and this kompromat gathering is useless against a bunch of suburbanites that are vicariously living through their friend with the younger partner.

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          11 hours ago

          You don’t have to be part of the political class to run for office. That type of mentality is exactly how we wind up with a “political class” in-group who disenfranchises and sabotages the campaigns of any commoner who wants to run for office to serve their constituencies (i.e., their neighbors).

          Besides, running for office isn’t the only thing that could be sabotaged by this. You could get blacklisted by all the companies in your area. You could get slandered on social media and lose the respect of all your friends and neighbors. Maybe you can’t go to a coffee anymore cause you won’t be able to trust that someone won’t spit in it.

          All because someone recorded you saying “nice tits” and posted it devoid of the context that she was hanging out casually naked and deliberately trying to make you sweat.

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      18 hours ago

      Perfect username for this comment.

      But also, it just depends. Sometimes it’s about the party, place, and people.

      I don’t talk about it much in normal spaces, but a subset of my friends group is fairly routinely naked or (with consent) randomly and casually sexually interacting with others.

      At the most recent party with this group, they had to explicitly say the party was kid-friendly until a certain point, to avoid pink bits and inappropriate demonstrations from happening while children were there. (And also to ensure parents knew to get their kids out of there.)

      Examples of things that routinely occur -

      Some of the women wear dog toy squeakers in their bra to encourage interaction with their boobs.
      People just compare undergarments and anatomy. Folks just get partially/fully naked and hang out.
      People get tied up on the suspension point in the living room.
      The same mount point can also mount to a pole, and the pole can be swapped in if someone is feeling acrobatic.
      Sex sometimes randomly happens. I’ve been involved in an impromptu threesome. (A twosome spun up and we had a guest appearance.) People leave doors open.
      There’s a hot tub. People use it. (The rule is no bodily fluids in the hot tub.) I mean, it’s kinky people at a party. Not a kink party. But just people at a party that negotiate consent and things happen.

      Different rules for different groups, though. The point isn’t to make people uncomfortable or to play power games (doing that probably would lead to a conversation at minimum and possibly a loss of invitation to future parties), it’s to revel in the physical pleasure of interacting with others and to have fun with folks who like to express their exhbitionist tendencies. While also bitching about work and life and all the other things people do at parties.