• TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world
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    9 hours ago

    I can’t tell you how many first dates I have been on where the lady thought I was mentally ill for having interest and hobbies outside of restaurants and travel. I went on one two weeks ago even where I said I had a grad degree and like studying languages as a hobby and she asked me if I was ‘autistic or something’. Then after I told her I don’t drink much anymore she just gave up on me entirely… lol

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      8 hours ago

      While I’ve certainly been guilty of going on long shot dates, I feel like your process should filter out most people with that level of incompatibility.

      I’m sure a lot of people picked up on my nerdery from my profile or initial messages and passed, and that’s probably the right choice.

      Though I do remember one bad date, we were talking about rom-coms and I mentioned dragon age inquisition and how I liked some of the romance plots in kt. She said something like she “thinks I live too much in those games”. Disaster averted, and now I have a fun story.