I’m someone who goes by Ze/Zir pronouns. I’ve done so for years. I originally went by they/them pronouns but I didn’t like them much and they just don’t feel right for me. When I discovered neopronouns they just felt right. Unfortunately I haven’t had much luck getting people to refer to me by my preferred pronouns.

Even here on Lemmy lots of people still refer to me by they/them or worse she/her. It feels really bad. Does anyone else on here struggle with this?

    • Of the Air (cele/celes)@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
      4·
      22 hours ago

      I’ve had a situation the other day where I got scolded because in my comment I apparently omitted the existence of people who are plural.

      If you are refering to us talking about non-humans, we apologise. We did not mean to come off as scolding you. If it was not us then that is very unfortunate and you deserve better.

      • schmorp@slrpnk.netEnglish
        3·
        15 hours ago

        Thanks, yes, it was that situation. Apology accepted, and I want to apologize as well because I do feel I was a little more caustic in one of my comments than I wanted to be. I’m still pondering why this made me so reactive, but haven’t fully understood myself yet. Work in progress.

    • gegil@sopuli.xyzEnglish
      3·
      1 day ago

      English language isnt even very difficult to use gender neutral they/them or neopronouns, as many words are ungendered. In very gendered languages like ukrainian, it is impossible to use something other than he or her; there isnt even a universal way to refer to a particular person in gender neutral way.