• whereitsat@lemmy.zip
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    why is this a bad thing exactly?

    men want big tits or a big ass.

    women want a big bank account.

    we knew this back in the 90s but women nowadays wanna obscure their own failings and just talk shit about men all day.

    i like big tits and i’m proud of it.

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      men want big tits or a big ass.

      I’d bet quite a few men would beg to differ. Men aren’t a monolith anymore than women are and I know their preferences vary wildly.

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    What if I said many cis types actually prefer smaller breasts and huge boobs are mostly an advertising meme.

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      I mean a lot of men (or other people attracted to femme bodies) like big boobs. Others don’t. It’s just personal preference. I wouldn’t say it’s purely a media thing.

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        Breasts are nice to look at. Big breasts = more to look at and more easy to notice.

        Even if you don’t particularly like breasts, or not attracted to women at all, you’re going to notice a huge pair of bazongas.

        It’s a bit like how women are going to stare if a man opens a few more shirt buttons because it’s hot or he’s terminally Greek. You’re going to look, even if you don’t want to have sex with him or find him particularly attractive.

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      I think in general talking about outward appearances kinda misses the mark for a lot of people. People are generally capable of finding others attractive for who they are as long as they get along well.

      I think, if you just asked him to name traits he likes in a woman, I think my husband would have said he generally prefers petite women, and although I’ve always been tall I was thin when we met. But my body has changed a lot over the years, and I know he thought I was the cutest girl in the world at every point in that journey. At my biggest, he’d talk about how cute my stomach squish is. At my thinnest, he’d tell me how cute my thinness is. It’s really all psychological.

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      Someone will be attracted to every body type.

      In my experience, I get WAY more attention from men if I’m wearing a regular bra instead of a sports bra.

      I’ve got big arms and shoulders, so a lot of the time in a sports bra people assume I’m a dude with pecs the side of Schenectady.

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      You’d be right. Most Cis men tend to call women with anything bigger than a C cup fat. I think on some fucked up level they’re groomed by our culture to prefer bodies of a kind of child-like build. Before the 2010’s white people barely ever wanted girls with ass either.

      Not saying Harvey Weinstein caused this but it’s crazy how one fucking dude can shape entire generation’s hegemonic concept of beauty

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          You would have had to been there. America has kind of low-key always been on some pedo shit. Just pick a celebrity and search their name with the phrase “turns 18”.

          Then again, maybe don’t go down that nightmare hole

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              That would be because I’m talking about our culture and you’re talking about individuals that you personally know. Growing as a person can be learning how to handle critique of the world we live in without it seeming like a personal attack

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                One way I have grown as I’ve aged is that I realized it’s rarely worth spending time on people who are casually condescending in their communication with strangers, so have a nice day.

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                  You come off pretty fragile so I adjusted. Don’t really know how you want people to engage with you other than just saying things you already agreed with since you were a teenager, but I’m pretty sure there’s a space for that somewherew here

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        Kim Kardashian started the big ass preference, when women realized they didn’t have to work so hard at the gym to have a perfectly fit muscular body, they could just be lazy & have a fat ass.

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          Kim Kardashian started the big ass preference

          1. Sir Mix-a-Lot and Rubens would also like a word.
          2. Attaining a big firm ass naturally(!!!) also requires needs plenty of work in the gym. You can be fat with a flat behind.
          3. the slim muscular physique is mostly diet, especially when it comes to visible abs.
          4. the ‘perfectly fit muscular’ physique you see in movies, is invariably unnatural, undernourished, under-hydrated, and unhealthy.
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              I saw nothing. LOL

              Personally I’ve stayed fit by doing the exact same mind numbingly dull exercises for the past 15 years. But that does not an interesting fitness youtube channel make. LOL.

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                She said licensed skydiver, and those look more like paragliding canopies, so I’d guess she’s the structure gal. It fits with the aerial acrobat description.

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          She was probably a huge factor in it. But before her non-white Americans have always held a cultural point of being more accepting or preferring bodies that where anything less than thin. Don’t really like equating not being thin to laziness though. That’s some boomer shit and you really don’t have to look far to see their work ethics don’t scale to the amount of judgment they bestow on anyone in their immediate vicinity

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      Depends on what “small” means, there is a point where it looks wrong on real people but that’s more of a proportion issue because a 9 foot tall lady with the equivalent of around double d’s is still going to look good despite the overall size

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        Fun fact: AFAIK a 30DD has the same cup volume as a 36B. A 30G has the same cup volume as a 44B.

        Most men and a surprising amount of women don’t know how bra sizes work.

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          I love watching men talk about breast sizes because it’s always so stupid lol, “nu bro they were like quadruple Ds!”

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          That’s called a cross size.
          But bras only work for a certain range. The volume may equate but the clothing.

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            The same volume can also be shaped to be more or less visible, I have seen examples when its done to the point it looks rather unpleasant. Like, your boobs shouldn’t look like that, they are almost spilling out sideways. Save that for the bedroom.

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          In my defence the most I’ve interacted with bras was being asked by my mom to bring her a bra from the laundry so I’m not exactly educated