My family are like the very last people I need to come out to, and then I’ll be done with my social transition. I’ve talked about how afraid I am to come out to them so often in comments here that you all probably already know that they’re conservative Catholics.
I am so over hiding myself from them, I’m just ready for it to be over, and even if they respond poorly, at least then it’s something real and not just fear of the uncertainty
I don’t think I can do it in person though. It would be too uncomfortable, there would be too many people (I have a lot of siblings), and I don’t think I’d even be able to get the words out. But I still feel weirdly obligated, like I owe them the respect of coming out in person?
Please please tell me it’s okay to send them an email instead
On email, hell no.
Via mail, maybe.
By text, hell no.
By proxy, yes yes.
This message has been brought to you AFN Europe.
satire aside
If you love yourself, don’t make a traceable record of transition, for bigots will use it against us.
If you can hire someone to deliver the message for you, that’s better even if they respond poorly. If you feel it’s an obligation, I can respect your decision to inform them. But do not do so insecurely. The obligation is between you and them, not you and bigots. If have a friend than can deliver your message for you, then take that route, that way you don’t have to deal with anxiety you’re expressing over your parents’ misinformation.
—With much love and care, Ala😊