My family are like the very last people I need to come out to, and then I’ll be done with my social transition. I’ve talked about how afraid I am to come out to them so often in comments here that you all probably already know that they’re conservative Catholics.

I am so over hiding myself from them, I’m just ready for it to be over, and even if they respond poorly, at least then it’s something real and not just fear of the uncertainty

I don’t think I can do it in person though. It would be too uncomfortable, there would be too many people (I have a lot of siblings), and I don’t think I’d even be able to get the words out. But I still feel weirdly obligated, like I owe them the respect of coming out in person?

Please please tell me it’s okay to send them an email instead

  • gandalf_der_13te@feddit.orgEnglish
    3·
    21 hours ago

    my personal recommendation would be: instead of saying “i am a woman”, say something like “i would like to be a woman, and it would make me really happy if you can support me with that”. because

    • the 1st thing confuses people if they’ve never read all these philosophy literature that many of you have probably read.
    • while the 2nd thing is nice, personal, and directly asks them what to do. so it’s less confusing.
    • compostgoblin@piefed.blahaj.zoneOPEnglish
      2·
      10 hours ago

      Yeah, I see what you’re saying. However, I don’t want to give them the impression that this is something optional or that they’d be doing me a favor by supporting me. Maybe there’s a way I can phrase it other than “I am a woman” that also makes clear this is a non-negotiable aspect of who I am