• rumba@lemmy.zip
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    4 hours ago
    1. Are they arguing in good faith?

    2. Are they willing to give and take?

    3. Is this a simple difference of perspective, or a moral line in the sand?

    4. Are you ready to change your mind on the outcome of the conversation?

    It’s better to block than to scream into the void

    • Smoogs@lemmy.world
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      This assumes everyone works with the same healthy boundaries to know when they are reasonable.

      Pnt 4 there: disagreements and differences happen and should be allowed to happen.

      A person who is in a toxic state knows how to distort those points in order to vilify anything and anyone as if it’s ‘toxic’. This is exactly how the right vilify anyone who doesn’t look like them. All justified for ‘feeling safe’ in order to escape discomfort.

      • Sarah Valentine@pawb.social
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        This assumes everyone works with the same healthy boundaries to know when they are reasonable.

        No, it holds everyone to that same standard and if they don’t meet that standard, they get blocked.