Well yeah of course. Lots of people may not like the real you. You just need to find one. Well unless she’s a cheating bitch and then you need two. Er… I mean … never mind. 😂
but the sad truth is that there is the likely possibility that NOBODY will ever like you despite how loyal or peaceful or kind or handsome you are.
THATS what makes dating one of the shittiest games to play.
You can do everything right and every single person you want to date can still want to hang you despite you not saying or doign a mean thing to them.
You can do everything wrong like pinochet, reza shah, mobuto, joe biden, kamala harris, suharto , pol pot, benjamin mileikowsky, adolph shitler, queen victoria, idi amin, etc… and people will build statues in your honiur AND wanna have your babies…wait… ALL the people I just mentioned all had spouses AND children! loool.
The same can be said for making friends too I have also found. People have told me they either wont date me or either wont befriend me…because the biggest sin Ive committed , in their words, was I am Black…
Enjoy those shitty, lonely games , comrades lol 😉🫡💔😏🤭
I totally believe there is someone for everyone. But given the amount of people around you and the number of combinations there is a very distinct possibility you may never meet them. It’s basically a math problem. Well computer science (and possibly economics… can’t remember), lookup the stable matching problem if you really wanna nerd out.
I’m sorry you have run into that. I can’t help that some people are just racist assholes but I understand how that could make it difficult. My entire life has pretty much been in academia so I don’t really see that side of people very often. I guess the more educated someone is the less racist they tend to be.
I consider myself very lucky in that I have quite a few friends. Some for as long as 35+ years. But the one trick that I have found to making friends is pretty simple… well its at least worked for me… just be interested in whatever they are interested in. I mean don’t be someone you’re not, but just finding their passions worthy of discussion almost always gets my foot in the door. Eventually, unless there are just a narcisstic asshole, it will be recriprocatedI. If they are that selfish and just use you, you really don’t want them for a friend anyways.
I didn’t learn this until my late 20s and that was really too late. It’s weird once you realize you haven’t been yourself for years, and when you start to try to be, it’s like meeting a long lost friend again.
Thats basically what the 20s are for everybody. You try to be anything but yourself and then you grow out of it and spend your 30s cringing at 20s-you.
Moral of the story: be yourself not something you think somebody wants.
I learned that lesson a long time ago.
Next green text story incoming:
Me: tried being myself
Her: ew
Well yeah of course. Lots of people may not like the real you. You just need to find one. Well unless she’s a cheating bitch and then you need two. Er… I mean … never mind. 😂
but the sad truth is that there is the likely possibility that NOBODY will ever like you despite how loyal or peaceful or kind or handsome you are.
THATS what makes dating one of the shittiest games to play.
You can do everything right and every single person you want to date can still want to hang you despite you not saying or doign a mean thing to them.
You can do everything wrong like pinochet, reza shah, mobuto, joe biden, kamala harris, suharto , pol pot, benjamin mileikowsky, adolph shitler, queen victoria, idi amin, etc… and people will build statues in your honiur AND wanna have your babies…wait… ALL the people I just mentioned all had spouses AND children! loool.
The same can be said for making friends too I have also found. People have told me they either wont date me or either wont befriend me…because the biggest sin Ive committed , in their words, was I am Black…
Enjoy those shitty, lonely games , comrades lol 😉🫡💔😏🤭
I totally believe there is someone for everyone. But given the amount of people around you and the number of combinations there is a very distinct possibility you may never meet them. It’s basically a math problem. Well computer science (and possibly economics… can’t remember), lookup the stable matching problem if you really wanna nerd out.
I’m sorry you have run into that. I can’t help that some people are just racist assholes but I understand how that could make it difficult. My entire life has pretty much been in academia so I don’t really see that side of people very often. I guess the more educated someone is the less racist they tend to be.
I consider myself very lucky in that I have quite a few friends. Some for as long as 35+ years. But the one trick that I have found to making friends is pretty simple… well its at least worked for me… just be interested in whatever they are interested in. I mean don’t be someone you’re not, but just finding their passions worthy of discussion almost always gets my foot in the door. Eventually, unless there are just a narcisstic asshole, it will be recriprocatedI. If they are that selfish and just use you, you really don’t want them for a friend anyways.
Meh, happens sometimes
I didn’t learn this until my late 20s and that was really too late. It’s weird once you realize you haven’t been yourself for years, and when you start to try to be, it’s like meeting a long lost friend again.
Thats basically what the 20s are for everybody. You try to be anything but yourself and then you grow out of it and spend your 30s cringing at 20s-you.
But I’m not like that.
Yeah me neither.