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Counter-Therapism Rule

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196@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish · 2 days ago

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A thread of the posts by @cait.bsky.social. They read as follows:

I had my first talk therapy session with my new therapist and she hit me with the “you’re very self-aware” ☹️

not the “pleasure to have in class” of therapy

that’s right, I know all the tools and have developed countertools so they no longer work. welcome to thunderdome

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It’s also that what you want out of the friend is not for them to run away or apologize profusely, it’s to own up, apologize, and try to be better next time
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  Yeah, good call. I meant to have a line about that. You would help a friend get over the blame and self-criticism and get to the actual business of changing for the better.

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