That makes me hesitant to ever identify as bisexual though and honestly that makes me really sad. I’ve become quite attached to bisexuality as a part of my identity and adhere to the definition @TwiddleTwaddle@lemmy.blahaj.zone used here:
the bi part of bisexual refers to both homosexual (same gender) and heterosexual (different gender) so nobody’s left out. I guess an argument could be made that an agender person might not fit under either umbrella, but i would still consider agender to be either same gender (if the bisexual person is also agender) or different gender (if the bisexual person is not agender).
I would just hate to signal to anyone not cis that I’m rejecting them based on my own identity.
All of this is just retroactive attempts to delineate the two labels after the concept of being transgender started to become understood by a wider portion of the public (and the queer community, for that matter). Don’t let faux-academic definitions define your identity. If “bisexual” feels like it fits but gender-nonconforming, agender, androgynous-presenting, and/or genderfluid people are also your thing, that’s entirely fine.
(Edit: and it doesn’t in any way invalidate other people’s self-labeling when they categorize it differently to you. Labels are only there to simplify communication of ideas. They’re not a sports team.)
I would just hate to signal to anyone not cis that I’m rejecting them based on my own identity.
That would imply being anything other than pansexual is wrong and discriminatory, period.
It’s worth stressing that it’s perfectly fine to reject someone as a potential partner for any reason or even for no reason at all. For example if you find white women more attractive than black women, I don’t think it makes you racist if that’s just about attraction, not respect.
I think that distinction just grew up with the current trend of trans-exclusion. I identify as bi and my bi club is explicitly inclusive of trans and NB folk. The transphobes will have to pry the ol’ pink and blue from my cold dead sexy bisexual hands.
You mean like how you have no idea if I’m a man or a woman? Funny how it’s one set of rules for you and another for me.
Edit: To clarify, this isn’t a “You can’t define what a woman is” thing, it’s a “this user loves to make assumptions about me and is mad when I do the same” thing.
I never said that. I said all the ones I encountered have been that way. There’s probably loads of fem lesbians that are cool, that don’t make their issues (or lack thereof) my problem. I’ve probably talked to a few that didn’t even feel the need to bring up their sexuality.
Edit: As always, you’re jumping the gun and assuming my beliefs and positions so you have a punching bag.
That makes me hesitant to ever identify as bisexual though and honestly that makes me really sad. I’ve become quite attached to bisexuality as a part of my identity and adhere to the definition @TwiddleTwaddle@lemmy.blahaj.zone used here:
I would just hate to signal to anyone not cis that I’m rejecting them based on my own identity.
All of this is just retroactive attempts to delineate the two labels after the concept of being transgender started to become understood by a wider portion of the public (and the queer community, for that matter). Don’t let faux-academic definitions define your identity. If “bisexual” feels like it fits but gender-nonconforming, agender, androgynous-presenting, and/or genderfluid people are also your thing, that’s entirely fine.
(Edit: and it doesn’t in any way invalidate other people’s self-labeling when they categorize it differently to you. Labels are only there to simplify communication of ideas. They’re not a sports team.)
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That would imply being anything other than pansexual is wrong and discriminatory, period.
It’s worth stressing that it’s perfectly fine to reject someone as a potential partner for any reason or even for no reason at all. For example if you find white women more attractive than black women, I don’t think it makes you racist if that’s just about attraction, not respect.
I would hate to signal it because I am personally attracted to cis and trans people, but still like to identify as bisexual. That’s all :)
I think that distinction just grew up with the current trend of trans-exclusion. I identify as bi and my bi club is explicitly inclusive of trans and NB folk. The transphobes will have to pry the ol’ pink and blue from my cold dead sexy bisexual hands.
Hell yeah!
Yeah, you’re definitely not proving me wrong on that.
You have no idea if I’m butch or fem.
You mean like how you have no idea if I’m a man or a woman? Funny how it’s one set of rules for you and another for me.
Edit: To clarify, this isn’t a “You can’t define what a woman is” thing, it’s a “this user loves to make assumptions about me and is mad when I do the same” thing.
It’s bigoted as fuck to assert that all butch lesbians are cool and all fem lesbians are bitter.
I never said that. I said all the ones I encountered have been that way. There’s probably loads of fem lesbians that are cool, that don’t make their issues (or lack thereof) my problem. I’ve probably talked to a few that didn’t even feel the need to bring up their sexuality.
Edit: As always, you’re jumping the gun and assuming my beliefs and positions so you have a punching bag.
Assuming that I’m fem because you don’t get along with me is a bigoted way of thinking.
You really don’t understand the irony of that statement and the way you’ve labeled me, do you? That’s really sad that you’re so bigoted.
I don’t like you because of your repeated demonstrations of misogyny. Men, women, and everyone in between can be misogynistic.
who assumed that you are a man?
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it’s the internet nobody cares who you are or who is slandering you lol
you’re not that important