The commit tree diverges :/
how to git rebase to better life branch?
I try to think of it this way: if you wince a bit at the thought of past selves, it just means you’ve grown.
I wish I could internalize this.
Like yeah and I get that but why am I still being kept awake at night for shit that happened 25 years ago?
next time that happens, be the adult you needed then to show you a better way to navigate.
yeah just ran into this texting an ex recently. we were together for almost 5 years, but i didnt learn i was neurodivergent or trans or kinda aro and very nonmonogamous until years after we broke up. ive been through years of therapy and self discovery at this point and shes still operating on memories of a maladjusted egg doing her best man impression (badly) and being kind of shitty about it.
i made an offhand comment that triggered some of the trauma i left her with, which made her type a long text reminding me of how i was shitty to her. it was kind of surreal because it was based on what i know now to be really shitty and toxic assumptions about my motivations and intentions, and the person who did those things to her is dead at this point.
i thought i would feel bad but i just kind of felt sad that shes still carrying that stuff around with her… not that ive put down all the baggage she left me with but still, it seemed almost fresh to her even after all these years.
Someone once said to me “You shouldn’t make everyone your enemy but you will make a few without trying to. You should be friendly with everyone but not appease them in exchange of yourself. And try to finish your life with more friends than enemies.”
That was my reaction as well
I liked this quote, Thank you
Could be worse, what if they remember you being awesome but you suck now?
my biggest fear (｡╯︵╰｡)
I’m just as sure you don’t suck as I am that you’re not Jessica, which is to say, ~50%. I’m usually a bit off on these things, so I’ll just say I’m Totallyprettysure TotallynotJessica is Totallysuperawesome.
i liked this post even before i read what it was cause i saw your username ^^
Yeah, this is me. I used to be pretty quick witted and funny, but mostly in a ‘bad taste’ or random kinda way that only really works around teenages and young 20-somethings. I’d probably lose an eyebrow through cringing if I heard my younger self talking like that, even if the rest of the group laughed
What, you dont banana mustache anymore?? Well im taking my narwhal and flying into the moon
I’m in constant fear of making the same mistakes now that I’ve made such an effort to be who I am now.
Persistence of self is an illusion. A person is a process rather than an entity.
P.S. Btw, this makes me doubt the feasibility of teleportation, because not just the molecules, but electrical and chemical activity at a particular moment would need to be recreated.
Objects are mutable
Indeed, the same way as you can alter a thing, and even stones are worn away by water. But that’s not the point. A person is what is happening inside the meatbag, and every single moment adds to the experiences shaping the self. The person is never the same as they were before.
It was just a joke about your user name lol, sorry, I should have made it more clear.
Is it still ‘object object’ on your side? I removed that long ago, but I guess the change doesn’t propagate to some instances.
Yeah, weird!
I’m sure most people understand this (the post’s) concept but they’re evolved to survive. Why talk to someone, with no benefit for doing so, who poses a risk?
Fortune favors the bold.
Also a fool and their head are easily parted.
But also fortune favors the bold…
I wasn’t a smart person when I was younger but I’m not a smart person now.
“I was young and stupid, but after many years of hard work and dedication, I’m no longer young.”
I served a mission for the LDS Church and had some success – my mission didn’t have a lot of baptisms, but I managed a few. I left the religion about a year after I got back, and I’m not particularly proud of who I was when I was a member. I think a lot about the people who converted because of the things that I said to them, and whether they’d be better or happier people had I chosen not to go.
saw a friend from my highschool DND club who I haven’t seen in a year in a half walk past while cashiering at work. I said hi and waved and she didn’t even acknowledge me. Fair enough, I’ve changed a lot lol
You turned into a cat??
Ah the old…
I thought cats usually prefer remote jobs
To be fair, I wouldn’t have recognized you either. Just some random lady waving at me? I’m flattered, but she must think I’m someone else
I try to not think about it, I have bad takes nowadays but I absolutely loath and feel disgust with the person I used to be.
omg lmao i think about this sometimes, most ppl from college haven’t seen me after graduation, and i haven’t seen any of them in ages, and now i am a pretty cheery queer dude, when i used to be a withdrawn and kind of emo/weird chick 💀
thankfully everyone i actively associate with is aware, but if i think about anyone i haven’t kept in touch with… 💀💀💀
and don’t even get me started on high school
I don’t think anyone from college would bat an eye, but it’s the people in high school who really get to me. I don’t know if they’d be genuinely shocked, and I kinda fear that they wouldn’t be surprised.
Quite the opposite; I’m terrified of running into someone from my past who remembers the me with “potential” before everything in my life went to shit.
I feel shame for what I did. Sometimes overwhelming shame.
Do you ever think about what you’d say if you saw them again?
I avoid contact. I don’t have the energy to face these people. I trampled on their trust and friendship and broke a lot of hearts. It’s a mess I can’t clean up. Too much guilt.
Sorry to hear that. I hope all of you find peace in your own ways.
They were assholes too, generally speaking.
yeah, but then I’d hate that they think positively of me
I had a lot of security flaws that were patched over time. I can’t understand why people are still running such old versions of me - it’s grossly negligent.
Not even GrapheneOS can fix that?
I’m not entirely sure if I’m fully compatible, but hey, I’ve even got some new features now, even though some of the popular old ones have been partially superseded – so maybe there are still some legitimate use cases for “Legacy Me” after all :)
Well, old me was doing my best.
