Edit 2: @HornyMiisha@lemmy.blahaj.zone now!

Edit 3: not again…

I’m sorry… I think it’s me who triggered this by worrying about her so much (I won’t why but it’s not life-threatening) I messaged her on Lemmy (she’s not online on Matrix), making her open a chat which we last used…

CW: self-harm

…when she had suicidal thoughts and as the police suggested I pretended to want to come so I could make them do a wellness check… ultimately did make her less willing to die but not nice of me

At least nobody (not even the police, who didn’t ask for her username) but me (who she accidentally sent her name to) knows her real name in connection with the Lemmy and Matrix accounts, so she technically wasn’t doxxed; the police didn’t tell me the address they found in their database of course.

By the way, the police here is generally nice, if incompetent at times, and would use Miisha’s legal (female) name. It’s not like I sent a SWAT team.

Edit: Miisha insists this was not why she deleted her account. It’s clear she was already in distress* so I’d say I wasn’t the only factor but given the timing, it was probably the last straw

* Edit: this is the situation in question

So yeah, @Miisha@lemmy.blahaj.zone saw a sad chat, didn’t want to see it ever again and went the way of @AnxiousMiisha@lemmy.blahaj.zone :( at least her posts and comments are still visible

  • Apytele@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
    8·
    1 day ago

    Yeah from a provider of inpatient care, it sucks. It’ll keep you alive if your other option is death buuut…

    Since you do know her name / where she is here’s my recs:

    ~3x T-shirts

    ~3x Shorts / pants that will stay up without a drawstring

    A sweater without strings or a hood

    Warm fuzzy slippers with a soft but grippy bottom.

    books - Make sure they’re paperbacks bound with glue, not spiral or staples:

    • a plain notebook
    • 1-2 fiction or nonfiction according to preference (softcore smut is probably fine as long as it’s not apparent on the cover)
    • an adult coloring book
    • if you can find it a paint by sticker book would be perfect
    • a box of crayons without a sharpener (they miiight allow markers / colored pencils but even if she wound up on the absolute highest possible self injury precautions crayons would still be fine).
    • a pack of cards

    If she normally wears wigs get her a bouffant bonnet with an elastic band / no ties.

    Will add anything else I think of.

    • ChaoticNeutralCzech@feddit.orgOPEnglish
      4·
      15 hours ago

      Ngl, I’ve been to a psych ward for lesser problems, and it was a rather uncomfortable but quite effective way to resolve the pressing issues, but there are several more or less legitimate reasons she doesn’t want to go, or would use her free will to leave. Caring for her BF with a vertebrae fracture, for example…

      Anyway, if you want help with a list…

      • Blåhaj or other emotional support plushie
      • MP3 player (no video playback or games) or pocket radio
        • ideally rechargeable from USB-A without a cable, otherwise it can only be recharged at the nurse office; puny wired headphones are allowed; non-rechargeable models may be problematic due to springs in the battery compartment but those can be cut and replaced with sheet metal alternatives or even something like aluminium foil ball if need be
      • Hobby supplies
        • see if you have a hobby you’ve maybe “grown out of” or put on hold that can be done within the institution’s restrictions (low-tech, no ropes, wires, sharp edges or heavy blunt objects). Reading, writing, drawing etc. you mentioned but there can be other options like Rubik’s cube, large jigsaw puzzles, origami, or making elastic band bracelets, all of which were enjoyed at the teens’ clinic I stayed at. There was a piano and a then-recent offline games console available during some hours, too. Under staff supervision, there are more options: pencils can be sharpened, devices with cables charged and paper model outlines cut out, for example.

      BTW “crayons” in Europe usually refers to colored pencils, allowed in the low-security department I stayed at. There are other options that don’t get dangerously sharp: wax crayons (eww), color-core-in-thin-plastic-coating (once made by Progresso, not sure about modern alternatives), or Koh-i-noor art set with hexagonal translucent plastic shells and all-plastic advancing mechanism.