This is the result of handing dating life off to the capitalist class that uses it to enrich itself. Go to a neighborhood potluck or volunteer somewhere to meet people without prejudice. If it doesn’t land you a date then at least you’ll have fun or do something good.
Joining local, small scale gatherings without the explicit goal of getting a date does a few things. For one it makes you more sociable which will help you be attractive in the long run. For another it helps you meet people. For a third, you’ll have fun doing it. All those things develop you as a person which in the long run improve your odds of happiness, and it’s much easier to date a happy, well developed, sociable person than a miserable incel. And you’ll do it without Silicon Valley’s perverse incentives!
My point isn’t that the advice you gave was incorrect; it’s that the person in the meme explicitly would not follow it. The entire joke is that they will never do what is necessary to get a relationship. It doesn’t matter that it’s a sound dating strategy; you’re missing the point.
The meme probably just ironic, but giving such tone deaf advice in a more realistic scenario would definitely come across as condescending. People with genuine issues usually know what they need to do; it’s just that they can’t bring themselves to do it. Telling them what they already know will make them feel bad and won’t make them more likely to act.
It’s exactly how you make friends. Don’t go out looking for a spouse, that’s off putting. Make friends first and see where that leads. Worst case is you end up with a friend group, which is an attractive quality by itself.
This is the result of handing dating life off to the capitalist class that uses it to enrich itself. Go to a neighborhood potluck or volunteer somewhere to meet people without prejudice. If it doesn’t land you a date then at least you’ll have fun or do something good.
I don’t see how this advice would help the OOP at all.
Happy cake day!
Joining local, small scale gatherings without the explicit goal of getting a date does a few things. For one it makes you more sociable which will help you be attractive in the long run. For another it helps you meet people. For a third, you’ll have fun doing it. All those things develop you as a person which in the long run improve your odds of happiness, and it’s much easier to date a happy, well developed, sociable person than a miserable incel. And you’ll do it without Silicon Valley’s perverse incentives!
My point isn’t that the advice you gave was incorrect; it’s that the person in the meme explicitly would not follow it. The entire joke is that they will never do what is necessary to get a relationship. It doesn’t matter that it’s a sound dating strategy; you’re missing the point.
The meme probably just ironic, but giving such tone deaf advice in a more realistic scenario would definitely come across as condescending. People with genuine issues usually know what they need to do; it’s just that they can’t bring themselves to do it. Telling them what they already know will make them feel bad and won’t make them more likely to act.
Same advice works for making friends as an adult.
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It’s exactly how you make friends. Don’t go out looking for a spouse, that’s off putting. Make friends first and see where that leads. Worst case is you end up with a friend group, which is an attractive quality by itself.