• lessthanluigi@lemmy.sdf.org
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    2 months ago

    > Boo hoo I am going to be a 40 year old virgin!

    And? I’m a 29yr old who is still a kissless virgin. Just try to get some good friends or something. Improve your career and climb up that ladder, then sex or relationships won’t even matter anymore. Get off of 4chan.

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      i guess it’s good for you that you’re an emotionless cold-hearted robot (at least that’s how you come across through your writing) because that means you’ll be able to slave away without regret, but there’s people who actually do want to have a future, and there’s no future without each other.

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      Wtf no your 9-5 (or in your case im guessing much longer) isn’t a replacement for a relationship.

      If you’re somehow able to do nothing but work and self improvement all day and be satisfied with just that in your life then good for you but don’t assume everyone can just adapt to that mindset.

      Humans are not evolved to find intimacy so irrelevant.

      • Clent@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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        The idea that intimacy is required to live a fulfilling life is the lie. There are famous examples of people who were life long virgins. A few of them were in unconsummated marriages.

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          I would argue the reverse is also true. There were famous people with intimate relationships that have very unfulfilling lives.

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    I was 27 when i did the deed for the first time. It was very overrated. I’m almost 40 now. Ive been married, tried a few partners, it just didn’t matter. But before 27 I thought I must be missing out and got sad over it. Nah man it’s really nbd.

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      It’s society putting sex on pedestal. I agree when I did the deed for the first time, I feel it is overrated. Sorry if i might slight someone here, but from my observation, it is kind of the shallower folks who put too much value on sex.

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      Yep. Spent 5 years feeling social pressure to have sex then when I did have it at 20 it wasn’t as enjoyable. The only thing I got out of it was guilt for caring so much about something that mattered so little; regret for rushing into something i didn’t really want; and relief for not having the bare the social burden anymore.

      Protect your virginity lol.